Posted on 09/22/2009 4:47:52 AM PDT by strider44
FOXSexpert: The Real Reason Women Have Sex Monday, September 21, 2009
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“Why Women Have Sex.”
Given the stereotype that women are never in the mood, it’s not surprising that this book title is grabbing people’s attention. Written by researchers Cindy Meston and David Buss, the work flushes out the results of a survey of 1,006 women.
And their findings are all over the board; the authors highlight 200 reasons.
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So why do women have sex? The vast majority (84 percent) have sex to guarantee a quiet life or to persuade their men to do some housework. Some of the other reasons given in interviews include...
1. She’s alleviating boredom – it gives her something to do.
2. She wants to relieve a stress headache or migraine.
3. She’s trying to put an end to an argument.
4. She wants a better complexion.
5. She’s thanking her date for a nice dinner, a present, or spending a lot of money on her early on in the relationship.
6. She’s after a spiritual experience since sex is seen as “the closest thing to God.”
7. She’s refining her sexual skills.
8. She feels sorry for the fellow.
9. She likes that he has an extravagant lifestyle.
10. She’s in a long-distance relationship and wants action now versus later.
Ironically, romance and passion ranked low on females’ reasons for having sex. Instead, sex was viewed as being all about fun, with 60 percent of survey respondents admitting to regularly sleeping with a male friend who was not their boyfriend.
Attraction, too, apparently ranks low on a lady’s list. What’s interesting to note about this factor is that while most men find most women sexually attractive, researchers said that the gals don’t see the guys in quite the same way.
Women reported being attracted to men who were described as tall, having a deep voice, and smelling good. A male having a symmetrical body was also liked, indicating that he could give her strong children. Still, those men not living up to such visions can take comfort in her preference of men with lower levels of testosterone, since this suggests that he’s less likely to pursue others.
It’s important to take these findings with a grain of salt. The way that they’ve been presented largely reinforces the idea that women aren’t sexual by nature as much as capable of using sex as a bargaining tool. Writings cast women as using sex manipulatively or to put up with a partner and her relationship.
Then, muddling matters in terms of how to interpret results is the issue of women having sex versus wanting sex. These are two different factors in one’s sexual activity that aren’t being dealt with independently. Which reasons are ones where women desired sex or skin-on-skin contact? Which reasons felt instinctual?
The University of Texas study has also been criticized for focusing solely on university students at the UT Austin campus who were mostly young and white. We have to remember that these are the results of one group of women — they’re not representative of all women. Still, the book’s press release claims that the work is the “richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality.”
Really?
Collectively, the reasons presented in this survey make all women look conniving, selfish, narcissistic, and shallow when it comes to sex. It paints us as using sex for bartering purposes or approaching it as a hobby or sport. And while that may be the case for these women to some degree, the original research and book actually misrepresent all women by claiming that these findings apply to all of us.
There are a lot more reasons why women are having sex — and they aren’t being captured in this book.
If you ask me, and lot of other women of all ages and backgrounds out there, the reason women have sex, they’ll tell you... They’re having sex to express affection, to get in tune with their sexual core and feel sexy, to make love, to feel close to another, to maintain a long-term relationship by keeping the passion alive, to relish a shared, special moment... and because they like sex when it feels good.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
You mean we have a choice??? (grin)
So, a bunch of very young, probably unmarried, COLLEGE students were the only ones asked?
>>2. She wants to relieve a stress headache or migraine. <<
“I have a headache.”
“And I am here to help”
:)
“The Real Reason Women Have Sex Monday”
And here I thought Saturday was the traditional night.
well - I kept going down that list looking for something like...”because I love my husband and he’s smokin’ hot!”
But never found it!
And then after reading the article you realize this group of women don’t even have husbands.
And then you realize this is a college atmosphere -which, sadly, has devolved into a Godless, hedonistic, leftist pit of waste.
very sad.
Those aren’t the reasons. Gah! Who answered those questions anyway?
11) Thought he was somebody else.
I hate studies based on the reactions and thoughts of college kids. They have no connection whatever to the reactions and thoughts of women in the general population.
If you could see how most of these studies gather subjects—by putting a sign-up sheet on the psychology department bulletin board, promising extra credit for psychology undergraduates (who are not the brightest of the bright anyway)—you would realize the essential design flaws of these “studies.” Why anyone would pay attention to such exercises is beyond me.
“The Real Reason Men Have Sex”
Because She said we could. Yay!
Oh! Well, that explains the sampling errors, lack of experimental controls, failure to state an initial hypothesis, neglect to separate or normalize for interdependent variables, poor statistical analysis of the results, and an inability to state how their conclusion logically derives from the data. Duh, girls can't do science!
(...running away!)
In other words, hookers and porn stars will continue to have job security.
To get a house. After that, the candy store is never open.
This is where the need to make evolution fit every action makes a lot of research into crap (not that this research wasn't already crap). Any finding, no matter what it is, is given an evolutionary reason without the least bit of evidence. If women prefer large men, its for the protection and strong children. If they pick small men, its for easier child birth. If they pick violent men its because they are dominant males. If they pick passive men, its because they are more dedicated providers. etc., etc., etc.
The beauty of it is that the proof is always that we exist. Thus everything we do can be proved to be evolutionarily driven, because evolution drives everything and we exist.
I know this is a sidebar issue, and I'm not even arguing against evolution, just this tendency to justify this type of crap as evolutionary behavior, so that someone can fluff a little "science" into their grant project.
(Boy, can I tell you.)
Additionally, I’m shocked that “beer” is nowhere in the top ten.
Gee whiz, they've been like that since Ancient Greece.
What are the differences between using lab rats and psych freshmen in studies?
1. You can get a random sample with the rats.
2. The rats are generally brighter.
3. There is no group People for the Ethical Treatment of Freshmen.
4. You might feel pity for the rats' plight in experiments dealing with electrical shocks.
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