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Why some single women just need to shut up
www.cnn.com ^ | 4/28/09 | Wendy Atterberry

Posted on 05/10/2009 9:05:03 PM PDT by chasio649

In a recent column on the Huffington Post, "Why I'm Single," writer Lea Lane lists all the reasons that she's still single. Why? So she can send the URL to all the nosy, possibly well-meaning busy-bodies who keep asking her why she isn't in a relationship.

Lane presents a persuasive case; it almost made me wish for the days I, too, had the whole bed to myself. She's one of what I'll call the "Happies," women who are perfectly content with their single status.

They don't want for a companion; they love their solitude and have enough friends, hobbies, and passions to keep themselves busy.

Although, most Happies, like Lane, are "open to options, and do understand the beauty and wonder -- and blessing -- of a good relationship," they neither actively seek one nor passively hope and pray one comes their way. The Happies say they don't need a relationship to be content, and, by God, they mean it.

On the other side of the single lady spectrum, you've got the "Crappies." They're the single ladies with really crappy attitudes. Take, for example, Jezebel's Megan Carpentier, who responded to Lane's column with a list of her own, a list that not only doesn't make me a little nostalgic for my single days, it makes me sort of, well, sad -- for her.

I'm sad for the Crappies, because, as much as they say

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To: chasio649

I didn’t marry until I was 38. I was ok being single. I wasn’t going to compromise. I knew I needed to marry the right man. I know who I am. I did meet him and he is definitely the right man for me. Not what people or my family thought right away, but I knew and now they totally agree he was the right one for me!


21 posted on 05/10/2009 9:32:35 PM PDT by Hildy (A man searching for God is like a fish searching for water....)
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To: chasio649

No one likes to be alone night after night, why kid yourself.


22 posted on 05/10/2009 9:33:41 PM PDT by Nonstatist
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To: Hildy

You lucked out. Next time, don’t wait so long.


23 posted on 05/10/2009 9:34:55 PM PDT by Nonstatist
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To: ryan71; boxerblues; Hammy; Petruchio; Phinanceguy; DollyCali; Yorlik803; ...


24 posted on 05/10/2009 9:37:36 PM PDT by RandallFlagg (Satisfaction was my sin)
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To: Nonstatist

They are rare...but i have know a couple of people that are contented being single...they are in their early 60’s....although i admit that they are quite asexual.


25 posted on 05/10/2009 9:37:59 PM PDT by chasio649
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To: Nonstatist

Next time? Do you know something I don’t??? :)


26 posted on 05/10/2009 9:39:37 PM PDT by Hildy (A man searching for God is like a fish searching for water....)
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To: chasio649
Back when I was a kid, she was known as the Cat Lady. As I got older and my group of friends expanded, I came to realize that every neighborhood had one or one similar like the Bird Lady, etc.
They used to be crazy loners, but now they seem to run in packs.
27 posted on 05/10/2009 9:41:58 PM PDT by Skeezicks
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To: chasio649
Three of my acquainces (All three small business owners) went to China and have taken Chinese women as wives.They say they'll never have another thing to do with an American woman.
28 posted on 05/10/2009 9:42:43 PM PDT by blam
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To: chasio649
i know a couple of people that are contented being single.......although i admit that they are quite asexual.

Asexual is no way to go through life. Might as well be a plant.

29 posted on 05/10/2009 9:43:06 PM PDT by Nonstatist
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To: blam

My friend did the same...my wife is not American either....but that’s another thread ;)


30 posted on 05/10/2009 9:46:47 PM PDT by chasio649
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To: blam

I have a friend who is a mariner.
He married a Philippino woman (okay,no jokes), and he says
that there is no way that I should ever consider an American woman for a mate.
I agree with him, to the extent that most of the the women that I know watch Oprah, are obsessed with shoes and Prada bags, or whatever, and are totally oblivious to what is happening in our world, around us.
Why bother?


31 posted on 05/10/2009 10:08:34 PM PDT by gigster
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To: blam

Amen,, Its strange to date them. They show you photos of them jumping out of airplanes, them at the finish line of their last iron man, climbing Mt McKinley, and tell you of their year digging wells in Botswana, ad infinitum, ad nauseum,,,

So much aggression, so competitive. Women from Ukraine, for one, are puzzled by them. Passing up marriage and love, for a career? A generation of women here was destroyed. There are true gems here, but its like sifting though a dump truck of dung to find the 1 carat diamond hidden in there.


32 posted on 05/10/2009 10:09:38 PM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs earn the title of "man's best friend", Muslims hate dogs,,add that up.)
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To: chasio649

Sounds like a libtard purse fight.


33 posted on 05/10/2009 10:13:12 PM PDT by pissant (THE Conservative party: www.falconparty.com)
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To: gigster

If you travel much, its universally understood that American men make the best husbands. Its also understood that American women make the worst wives. Flame away cause i don’t care.

My sister told me that women from other countries only want material gain, that they won’t actually love you. I asked by what deranged thinking marrying an American woman protected me from that kind of woman. She wanted to kill me, cause her husband laughed out loud.

Omaha beach had about 10% casualties. American marriage has about 50%. Let that sink in a second.


34 posted on 05/10/2009 10:15:56 PM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs earn the title of "man's best friend", Muslims hate dogs,,add that up.)
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To: RandallFlagg

Please ping me.


35 posted on 05/10/2009 10:19:08 PM PDT by MoochPooch (I'm a compassionate cynic.)
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To: gigster

The women of the Philippines are the only thing holding that country together....the men are too busy drinking and betting at the cock fights.


36 posted on 05/10/2009 10:19:19 PM PDT by chasio649
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To: The Spirit Of Allegiance
Duped out of motherhood

Quite a moving and important article....thank you very much for posting.

37 posted on 05/10/2009 10:22:00 PM PDT by Stoat (Palin / Coulter 2012: A Strong America Through Unapologetic Conservatism)
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To: lonestar

Similar to my logic; why make one woman miserable, when I can make so many happy?


38 posted on 05/10/2009 10:32:24 PM PDT by stormer
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To: Stoat
Duped out of motherhood

Quite a moving and important article....thank you very much for posting.

Yes... but half the story isn't being told.

It's not as if these "duped out of motherhood" women had boxed engagement rings continually being shoved under their noses.

The corresponding men of that same generation haven't been at all eager to marry, or have been considerably less eager than the generation before them.

Many have opted to have girlfriends move in with them for a year or so instead of committing to marriage.

The men of that generation have had it drummed into their heads that they have "all the time in the world" to become fathers.

This is why I am filled with joy to see a young father playing with his little children.

39 posted on 05/10/2009 10:34:06 PM PDT by thecodont
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To: DesertRhino

No flame here pal.
The superficiality of most of the women my age is off-putting, to say the least.
My best (girl) friend, however, can tune up a 1970 Ford Maverick, including gapping the plugs and points, and putting new plug wires on it.
Also, she is one of the most elegant dancers you would ever see in your life.
They are out there.
But, they are an endangered species.


40 posted on 05/10/2009 10:37:28 PM PDT by gigster
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