*** Official Weekend Singles' Thread - May 30 to June 1

This weekend's topic is crushes, and once again, this one wasn't my idea. The idea may still be interesting, and we'll see what people have to say. Just in case, I'm going to try to give some extra bonus questions.

A couple of things are true about crushes. First, everyone has had them. Second, I'm not sure that anyone really likes admitting them. If I'm right, maybe this will be a difficult thread, but I'm not going to ask anyone to admit to anything.

A third thing about crushes may be that we don't all agree on how they are defined. I've heard of at least one definition that casts them in a negative light. According to this definition, a crush involves a great deal of sexual fantasy that often isn't appropriate. Other definitions are more innocent. In these, a crush involves feelings of attraction, including physical attraction, but does not include a strong desire for anything inappropriate. An example of the former would be a teenage girl willing to do anything for the star quarterback on the football team or a rock musician. An example of the latter would be a young boy feeling an attraction to his teacher. What is your definition? When someone speaks of having a crush or when you think of having a crush, do you think of something innocent although maybe frustrating or do you think of something not so innocent? Do you distinguish between crushes and other feelings of attraction or infatuation?

The next question is what qualities tend to make you or those you know have crushes on someone? Do you fall for a certain "type" or have you had these feelings for all kinds of people?

Are you more likely to have a crush on someone that you know in real life, or are you more likely to have a crush on some public figure that you know through the media?

How do you think most crushes turn out? Do they ever lead to serious romantic relationships? Do they ever lead to solid friendships?

What questions have I failed to ask about this topic? If you were hosting this weekend, how would you have approached the topic?

I would like to know more about fun activities to ask someone on for a first date. I have heard about making it lunch, no drinking, etc... Walk in the park sounds too????
I am not atheletic, but don't mind bowling or pool. Is that too old fashioned for today's dating world? And I am bad at both, could beat Obama, but then my grandson could too. :)

*** Official Weekend Singles’ Thread - May 30 to June 1 - Crushes ***
Saturday, May 31, 2008 8:35:09 AM · 65 of 100
Fighter@heart to mcsparkle
“does that apply to woman these days too?” Most assurredly!! I by no means am an “expert” in dating, however my rationale has always been “just ask.” A yes is a great answer. A maybe can be changed to a yes & a no can possibly be changed to a maybe!! The rest is all up to me.

Now as far as “growing a set” I would discourage ya on this!! Just get the nerve up to ask someone you’re interested in to join ya in a fun activity & see where it goes. You’ll do just fine..Best wishes.

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