Single and happy: it's the freemales

http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/ ^ | Sunday April 13, 2008 | Caroline Davies

[JimSEA]

LOL That’s what I’m talking about!!

[wideminded]

“I live in the solitude that is painful in youth but delicious in the years of maturity.” - Einstein

[najida]

Exactly!

[Hyzenthlay]

Actually, I respect them for not trying to be in a relationship just for the sake of having a boyfriend/husband/whatever. Too many times I’ve seen friends’ relationships end up badly because they’re terrified of being single that they’ll even date men who are not right for them, so it’s all about realising you’ll be happier single than in a lousy relationship where one (or both) parties cares more about having a partner than the partner themself.

[martin_fierro]

Women are increasingly rejecting a desperate, Bridget Jones-like search for a perfect partner, preferring instead to enjoy their single status and refusing to compromise by settling for 'Mr Mediocre'.

Unnngh.

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

Duped out of motherhood
Daily Mail ^ | 08:54am 24th February 2006 | KATE MULVEY
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1585427/posts

[chasio649]

That’s depressing.

[McLynnan]

Ah, you described me. I was married a long, long time. Single for five years now and wallow in the solitude. I guard it and protect it. I love it, don’t want to change it and am happy. Don’t get me wrong, I have family and friends in my life but my home is my solitary haven and I don’t want to share it right now. Maybe someday.......

[najida]

Exactly! From about 10 to 4ish today, I had a house full of people. Great fun! Now I’m under my fake fur comforter, remote in one hand and laptop in the other.

Life is good.

We are hobbits. We love our holes in the tree, our comfy chairs, our books and our quiet.

[stevem]

I'm strictly a female female...And my future I hope will be...In the home of a brave and free male... Who'll enjoy being a guy having a girl...like...me. (From the Flower Drum Song)

I can't get away from the thought that youngsters will always have fantasies of happily ever after. I also can't get away from the knowledge that lads and lasses will both attain happily ever after only when they become adults and make good choices of compatable others who are also adults.

[McLynnan]

So glad to know there is somebody else like me out there. Isn’t it nice to be in charge of the clicker? A few years ago I got one of those bed trays like you see in B&B’s. One of my favorite luxuries is to stay in bed on a Sunday morning with the paper on my bed tray, hot coffee, a fleece throw and the dog. Such a cheap high, lol.

[najida]

Yep, it’s wonderful.

[elkfersupper]

Wonderful!

[Global2010]

Bump to your post.

Some of the posts here have been rather crude in their view of single for life women.

[Global2010]

Bump again.

[Global2010]

Bump to your post.

[Welsh Rabbit]

Not everyone is meant to be with someone either... I mean, yeah, the majority of folks are better off with someone, but there are those who are far better off alone...and happier.

Yes, it’s true. Just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t mean it’s not true. And yes, I’ve been married and single, and single far far far is better than married. And a lot of it had to do with a very high need for solitude.

It just can’t be explained to some people. Those of us who need a lot of solitude are in the minority, and a lot of people just don't understand. I’m a single male, and although I’ve never been married, I’ve had a couple of live-in, monogamous relationships that lasted more years than the marriages of many of my friends. My choice to be single isn’t an immature endeavor to remain a free, skirt-chasing bachelor; I’ve never been a “player”. But my previous relationships have made me realize that I’m most likely just not family man material.

I’m not closed off to the idea of ever getting married and maybe the right woman for me is out there somewhere, but I also understand that my need for solitude is such that it’s unrealistic to expect most women to accept, and I hate the dating scene so I’m not actively looking for anyone who wants to put up with me. As far as ending up “largely old and unfulfilled with no grand children and like a withered branch that never bore fruit soon dry broken and forgotten”. Whatever… I’m very close to my family and I’m perfectly happy with being the jolly uncle. I’ve seen enough dysfunctional families to know that having kids and grandkids is no guarantee of dying fulfilled.

[bannie]

I've been married “more’n once,” and I have come to believe that you have to be young to be willing to mold to fit each other. I may be moldy; but I'm no longer malleable.

When I think of all of the work relationships take, I wonder why I ever tried so hard. (hormones...I really don't wonder!)

[chasio649]

I’ve seen enough dysfunctional families to know that having kids and grandkids is no guarantee of dying fulfilled.

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Can’t argue with that....

[najida]

Exactly. Often trying to fit into the mold lets you see just how different you are from the mold. Not good, not bad, just different.