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Not everyone is meant to be with someone either... I mean, yeah, the majority of folks are better off with someone, but there are those who are far better off alone...and happier.

Yes, it’s true. Just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t mean it’s not true. And yes, I’ve been married and single, and single far far far is better than married. And a lot of it had to do with a very high need for solitude.

It just can’t be explained to some people. Those of us who need a lot of solitude are in the minority, and a lot of people just don't understand. I’m a single male, and although I’ve never been married, I’ve had a couple of live-in, monogamous relationships that lasted more years than the marriages of many of my friends. My choice to be single isn’t an immature endeavor to remain a free, skirt-chasing bachelor; I’ve never been a “player”. But my previous relationships have made me realize that I’m most likely just not family man material.

I’m not closed off to the idea of ever getting married and maybe the right woman for me is out there somewhere, but I also understand that my need for solitude is such that it’s unrealistic to expect most women to accept, and I hate the dating scene so I’m not actively looking for anyone who wants to put up with me. As far as ending up “largely old and unfulfilled with no grand children and like a withered branch that never bore fruit soon dry broken and forgotten”. Whatever… I’m very close to my family and I’m perfectly happy with being the jolly uncle. I’ve seen enough dysfunctional families to know that having kids and grandkids is no guarantee of dying fulfilled.

I’ve seen enough dysfunctional families to know that having kids and grandkids is no guarantee of dying fulfilled.

Can’t argue with that....