I hadn't thought of this situation, but you're the second person to mention it. I guess I've just never been there.
Regarding attractive, I'd say that you can use whatever definition you please. Imagine your ideal man in terms of appearance. Would he seem to be a good fit for a woman who is not at all attractive physically? To me, the interesting part of your answer is that when you described "a Man," you didn't describe any physical attributes. Do you have any physical preferences?
Paying off credit cards is a good thing. I'm much more excited by the idea of a woman who is financially responsible than I am by the idea of a woman who lives in debt.
I had to chuckle when I read that. I've been totally out of debt (with the exception of my house) twice in the past 10 years. After going to college for the past 3 years and living on student loans to get 'er dun..... I will be on the wire for awhile. That makes me more of a hindrance than a help....in the dating world. So.....if most guys think like that....I can hang it up for the next 5 years. :)
It's not pretty, although with the right friends you've just increased the people to worry over and love on. :-)
Regarding attractive, I'd say that you can use whatever definition you please. Imagine your ideal man in terms of appearance. Would he seem to be a good fit for a woman who is not at all attractive physically?
I hadn't thought of that. My ideal man probably wouldn't want completely not attractive, but might be happy with cute, or not enhanced looks.
To me, the interesting part of your answer is that when you described "a Man" you didn't describe any physical attributes. Do you have any physical preferences?
Hmm, good point. I suppose I do have some general characteristics I look for in a man. I'm 5'2" and built on the lines of not stick thin, so my preference is a man who is taller and stronger than I am. I suppose in a way it's an age old instinct of is this man a protector, can I count on him to protect myself and others should I be incapacitated and unable to help. Hair/Eye/Skin color aren't that important to me, just that a man takes care of his appearance (neat and clean) and that he's trustworthy. I'm an old throwback, there are times I swear I was born in the wrong century. Although a good sense of humor is an absolute must. I openly admit that my sense of humor is slightly skewed. At least I easily entertain myself with what I think is funny.
Paying off credit cards is a good thing. I'm much more excited by the idea of a woman who is financially responsible than I am by the idea of a woman who lives in debt.
Well, I did just buy my first house in Nov. WOOO! I have been working to get out of debt (not serious debt). It's just as I get older, I find I don't need the best and newest stuff. My car is paid for, my house is not, but I have reasonable payments (cheaper than my rent was) and I have two cards with minimum maximums and I want them to go away. My mortgage company loved me... that whole debt to income ratio they look at. (RME)
My biggest expense comes from buying books. I love books. I have a ton of books: History, Sci-Fi, Horror, Romance, Mystery, Westerns...both electronic and hard copy. I ran out of bookcases.
(chuckling) I recently had a male friend tell me that I would be a hit at a sci-fi convention. I think he was calling me a geek.