Posted on 02/14/2007 11:24:30 AM PST by blam
Wife studies why husband ignores nagging
DURHAM, N.C., Feb. 13 (UPI) -- A U.S. researcher says some people just can't help ignoring their nagging spouses.
The research, which appears online in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, found that people do not necessarily oppose others' wishes intentionally.
Duke University researchers found that "some people will act in ways that are not to their own benefit simply because they wish to avoid doing what other people want them" to do.
Psychologists describe the behavior at "reactance" -- a person's tendency to resist social influences that they perceive as threats to their autonomy.
Tanya L. Chartrand, an associate professor of marketing and psychology at Duke University's Fuqua School of Business, said even "the slightest non-conscious exposure to the name of a significant person in their life is enough to bring about reactance and cause them to rebel against that person's wishes."
Chartrand said she undertook the research as a way to understand why her husband often seemed to ignore her requests for help around the house.
"My husband, while very charming in many ways, has an annoying tendency of doing exactly the opposite of what I would like him to do in many situations," Chartrand said in a release.
I used the word "fiction", but did you notice that almost every season he has a different partner?
The really pathetic part is that it was something I wanted....
LOL!!!!
I gave my husband socks for Valentine's day.
Our anniversary is next week, our present to each other is giving a friend money to take her kids and our kid out for dinner and letting ours spend the night with hers :)
I always knew you were smart, but I didn't realize you were an actual genius ;-)
this is a duplicate story.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/chat/1785295/posts?page=166
What a very nice thing to say, thank you!!!!!
The whole thing is not very complicated...
Guys need to be left alone, sometimes for hours at a time. Let them retreat to their cave and sort it out for themselves.
When women are upset their first inclination is they need to talk to their partner, so women assume that is what he would want since they always say "do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
Nagging is unbearable. Sends you to your cave far away.
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