Posted on 07/26/2005 2:54:12 PM PDT by Redcitizen
LONDON (Reuters) - Forget expensive presents or costly jewellery. Wining and dining is the best way for men to woo women, scientists said on Tuesday.
Researchers at Imperial College London developed a mathematical formula and modelled courtship as a sequential game to find the best way to impress the ladies.
Their results show that offering an expensive present signals the man's serious intentions but he must be wary of being exploited by gold-diggers who will dump him after receiving the gift.
"Guys are less likely to offer expensive gifts to females they don't have a long-term interest in. And girls won't be impressed with cheap gifts. By offering expensive but worthless gifts, such as dinner and theatre trips, the male pays no cost if the invitation isn't accepted," said Dr Peter Sozou, of University College London (UCL).
If women are not interested they are unlikely to accept the invitation, according to the research published in the journal Proceedings of the Royal Society of London B.
The researchers said giving gifts was a feature of courtship in humans and other species to impress females. Physical attraction is an important element but offering gifts also helps.
"Our analysis shows there is evolutionary logic in men 'burning money' to impress the girl," said Professor Robert Seymour of UCL's department of mathematics.
You've met Mrs. Pissant?
I would rephrase what Mr. Jeeves stated as women are not attracted to men who have mushy centers. If a man does not have a strong self-identity -- the specific nature of it is immaterial -- he is largely unmarketable in the dating world. This goes for women as well, but it is arguably less important in the overall calculus. Strength of character that can be counted on is a very important attribute for men to possess, which has only loose correlation with specific personality attributes.
Of course, there is always that other rule: a person of substance rarely has need to remind other people of this fact -- trying hard to have some is a sure sign someone doesn't have any.
(random Tuesday evening musings, not to be used with alcohol or while operating heavy machinery)
You wouldn't have to run out before you finished!
;-p
LOL! I think I'd object to being called, Mrs. "PISSANT"!
(Note to pissant: It's not the "MRS." part that would be hard to take...)
Well-said.
Intimate relationships are waaaay complex.
I've been married for 10 years. I couldn't image being married to anyone else. I've seen a few guys at work that throw away their marriage, kids, etc. for someone 20 years younger than them. One guy lost out on a good promotion and his kids won't even talk to him becuase he was too busy messing around with one of the younger ladies at work. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
On a side note, how come bald guys that are 40+ always drive a convertable sports car?
Perfectly restated. Thanks. I've got one eye on a C# program tonight, and my usual eloquence is eluding me. ;)
THAT'S MRS. PISSANT?
She's .... lovely..... ahem....
.....because it doesn't mess up their hair?
Great outlook.
When I look at older, happy couples, it makes me sad to know that I can never have what they have. Even if I were to find someone now (I'm 53), we could never have that sewn-together-ness that life-long partners can have.
Gotta be careful about doing that in California -- that is a rainbow sticker shy of neon sign that screams "I'm gay!".
The middle-aged guys with the convertible sports cars are the ones that realize that they are basically losers and are making a last ditch effort to purchase a life they'll never get (usually the consequence of a significant character flaw). A guy who actually has something going on will drive something a little more understated and classier. As a metaphor, all women generally try to appear attractive to men all the time, but only sluts and whores will hit you upside the head with their sexuality.
Flash is cheap cover-up for lack of substance.
er...hmmmm...
Some of us PREFER bald men. It's not a negative.
I never can understand it when people talk about bald(ing) as being a bad thing.
oooo, la la.
:-D
I think I have to go look at some bald men on tv. Back later!
That's why all twenty-seven of my cars are Aston Martins. ;)
Nice joke in Forbes recently:
Q: What's the difference between a Porsche and a porcupine?
A: The porcupine has the pricks on the outside.
;)
You hit the nail on the head with that. Once in a while I see that combination when we go out to dinner. Other than telling the waiter what they want for dinner, they don't even talk to each other at all during dinner. I couldn't handle having to sit with someone for 1.5 hours and not even have one conversation.
I *am* a woman.
Why would I wanna know how to "woo" one?....:))
Hairspray: the multi-talented female product. LOL. Well, we girls need one at least, as the guys have their colognes that they use for both female attraction AND deoderant. :-O
Pffft!
The way to *my* heart is to buy me some new software....LOL!
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