Quit drinking, I realize I am making an assumption but many 26 year-olds haven't given up the frat boy life style.
Stop getting too stoned. Make a list of the things you have to do each night and post it so that you will see it before going to bed.
I'd divorce you too if you did something like this. It sounds like you alrady know what your problem is, fix it !
The rest makes me soooo glad I am single!
Move to a blue state, they need people like you to help them with the next vote.
The rule in our house is "if it bothers you, you fix it." You are not the maintenance man.
Make a list of the things you need to do. Put the list on your bedroom door. Then just make sure you do everything on the list before you go to bed at night. That way you don't have to remember anything, you just do what's on the list. Lists work!
There's nothing wrong with you at all. Your wife is humping the mailman and is looking for a way out of the marriage.
Its a great help..
Pray together every night, and remember these words.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
Also, what stops you from making lists of what you forget every day?
If you leave a house, have a check off list:
Checked all the windows are closed and locked.
Car Keys.
Laundry water turned off.
Oven or range off.
Alarm on if need to.
Tell wife you are sorry again.
Leave.
Advise is the verb.........advice is the noun. You're looking
for the noun. I don't have any.
Gorwing up is easy, just put away all your childish things.
I assume you work a job. What does your wife do? Is your list of jobs so long you can't get them all done in a day? Are the chores required for running a household fairly divided? If she does hold down a job, then she does need help.
My sister-in-law's daughter married a fellow several years ago. She started out telling him she didn't do this and she didn't do that. One of her things was that she did not like to wash dishes and was not going to do dishes, that he would have to wash them when he came home from work. So, years went by and his work hours increased due to demand until he was working 80 hrs. a week, and still coming home and having to wash a sinkful of dishes. She did not have a job outside the home; he furnished her with a brand new car in which she tooled around the city where they lived, dropping the kids off at ballet class and shopping, lunching out and visiting her mother. She may have done some cooking and cleaning, but I would be surprised if he didn't do quite a bit of it. After ten years of it, he just broke I think. They were finally divorced, and now she has a more realistic idea of things (I hope). The family was pretty down on him right after that, but I told her grandmother (my MIL) that he had seemed to be a good daddy and husband for ten years and put up with a lot and I wasn't going to join the family in dissing him.
This may not resemble your situation at all; but for some reason I just thought of this situation when I read your post.
After so much time and all the advice - I don't know if anyone has suggested this - but - Pray!
Pray that God will give you Both a sense of humor to see something funny between you every day - That will help you through hard times.
And -
Pray that you will both have the gift of "chit-chat."
I know many couples who are seniors and the common thread amongst all of them apears to be these two thing - their ability to laugh about things - and to share thoughts without trying to change each other.
Good luck and God bless - remember - the trials you are passing through in this Life - are just that - Passing!