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My 19 year old daughter is taking me to court. She's taking me to court to force me to pay for her college. I was helping her pay her way through up until last month. She decided to move in with her boyfreind to save money. I told her I couldn't help her if she was going to move in with her boyfreind. She told me over the phone that I was a phsyco for even making a big deal about it. She called me a physco. She asked me for money. She said she has no money and is asking a judge to force me to pay her tuition. I'm divorced from her mother. Her mother said she would suggest to her daughter that she take out a restraining order against me until I resume helping her financially. A restraining order so that I can't call or contact her in anyway. I don't know what a court will do. I can't beleive people can think this way. Especially someone that's my own daughter. I told her that if she insists on living with her boyfriend I would make a change to her health insurance, yes I still pay the premiums. My daughter lives several hundred miles away from me, and I'm going to go to a less expensive plan so that if she wants to go to the doctor she has to come to the city I live in. I was paying a higher premium so that she could go to the doctor in the town she goes to school in. I suppose I could just drop her all together, but then I wouldn't be able to claim her as a dependent on my taxes. When I talk to her it's as if I'm nothing more than an inconvienance to getting her cash. I'm like a john to her. It's sickening.
1 posted on 11/29/2004 4:58:50 AM PST by KINGEDWARDIII
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Agriculture would seem to be an appropriate forum for this manure.


2 posted on 11/29/2004 5:06:12 AM PST by Coop (In memory of a true hero - Pat Tillman)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Take a deep breath and get a good lawyer.

If you are legally bound, by divorce decree, to continue to support your daughter, you don't have much of a choice.

If you play the ransom game (witholding support and insurance) that the ex-wife and daughter are drawing you into, it will only get worse for you.


3 posted on 11/29/2004 5:06:42 AM PST by dansangel (Thank you Veterans past and present!)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

I don't think you are legally bound to support a child over 18.


8 posted on 11/29/2004 5:12:29 AM PST by beckysueb (We sent the Liberal back to Massachusetts!)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Unless you are legally bound to provide support, I'd say you're best rid of all these people. Family or not.


12 posted on 11/29/2004 5:16:56 AM PST by Tijeras_Slim
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Pay her tuition.


13 posted on 11/29/2004 5:18:39 AM PST by bonfire
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

I bought the kindness of your heart part until you mentioned that you would lose her as a tax dependant. She's not the only one with money on her mind.


22 posted on 11/29/2004 5:28:44 AM PST by jtminton (<><)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII
"I suppose I could just drop her altogether, but then I wouldn't be able to claim her as a dependent on my taxes".

Yikes! And I thought the Ozzie Osbornes were a totally disfunctional family.

Leni

24 posted on 11/29/2004 5:30:38 AM PST by MinuteGal
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

This EXACT same story was printed in the "Dear Ann" advice column last year.

I vote for the manure heap!


33 posted on 11/29/2004 5:45:23 AM PST by ishabibble ((Toronto is a suburb of Somolia))
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Hang in there King.


45 posted on 11/29/2004 6:02:52 AM PST by stainlessbanner
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Talk to a lawyer, not to us.


48 posted on 11/29/2004 6:10:00 AM PST by thoughtomator (The Era of Old Media is over! Long live the Pajamasphere!)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII
I suppose I could just drop her all together, but then I wouldn't be able to claim her as a dependent on my taxes. When I talk to her it's as if I'm nothing more than an inconvienance to getting her cash.

What an ironic juxtaposition of sentences.

For the record, I say cut her loose.

58 posted on 11/29/2004 6:31:37 AM PST by Sloth ("Rather is TV's real-life Ted Baxter, without Baxter's quiet dignity." -- Ann Coulter)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII
First of all Just STOP trying to impose your moral values on your daughter by blackmail. It won't work. 19 years of age is a little late to teach moral values.

Second. There are two options with her roommate. They get married and he is your son in law or they break up and it was short and sweet relationship. Either way you are on a losing track.

I've been here. You have already screwed up and caused hurt which neither can repair without some work. When you push anyone into a corner, they will come out fighting. You want a wimp for a daughter?

Think ahead for heck sakes. Down the line is she going to have an education that you can be proud of. If she gets sick and has a hospital bill no one can afford, are you going to be happy with your decision?

Lastly, are you upset at her or are you looking for a way out of this expense. You are not wrong for feeling either way if your relationship supports your feelings. Just ask your self, why.
73 posted on 11/29/2004 8:09:16 AM PST by fritzz (Even if you are on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there." Will Rogers)
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To: KINGEDWARDIII

Sounds like an empty threat that would never materialize anyway - where would she get the money to pay for her lawyer without your $$? Remember the prodigal son (daughter in your case): cut her off (financially) and ignore her calls until she comes to her senses. If she doesn't, that's her choice, too. Tough love, but she'll never learn if you keep giving in the her demands.


78 posted on 11/29/2004 9:11:20 AM PST by DTogo (U.S. out of the U.N. & U.N out of the U.S.)
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