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Since you haven't let us know why or when you got a divorce when you and your wife had a dependent daughter, or if you stayed around to help to raise and teach her, my only advice would be to see your lawyer.

Well, you've gotten a lot of advice!

Do figure out what you are legally obligated to do. It sounds as though you have no legal obligation at this point as part of your divorce and custody agreement but check it out with a family law attorney.

My best friend is going through a similar situation. Daughter went to college, took up with a loser, had an abortion, kept the next child, lived off and on with loser, dropped in and out of college.

Her parents now wish that they had taken a harder line much earlier on. They believe that had they withdrawn tuition and financial aid when she first moved in the loser, that she would have made different choices.

You are under no moral obligation to provide a college education when your daughter doesn't abide by your "rules" (or at least displays some discretion about it). Many of us put ourselves through college with no ill effects.

If you do withhold tuition, please don't claim her as a dependent since that is untrue. Why is she on your insurance anyway? Most students can get ultra low cost health insurance through the school.

Good luck and rest assured that whatever she thinks of you now, she will smarten up considerably in the next 10 years.