The Hobbit Hole VII - But not yet weary are our feet...

[Fedora]

He loves it. He wanted to take it to school, but I vetoed that idea.

LOL!--good veto :) I used to get in trouble playing superheroes on the playground 'cause the teachers thought we played too rough :)

[Wneighbor]

Hmmm--sounds like he was good at doing it regularly but still off-schedule enough to be surprising?

Yeah, not *all* the time. But, more often than just the normal special days. And sometimes just because something *really* good happens or something terrible happens.

[Fedora]

I can see the logic behind that: little things that are unique to her say that you appreciate what's special about her. I can definitely see how to apply that. How about the way you give it to her--is it important to set it up a certain way?

[Wneighbor]

Oh WOW!! That is a very cool gift!! Someday my grandson might want one of those!! I hope I hope I hope!!

I can see why you'll have to move it... but, I hope he enjoys it! :-)

[Wneighbor]

but what is it about getting flowers that a woman likes?

Ya made me spit my drink of water!!! I dunno! Just like 'em! They're pretty, colorful, smell nice. I think they're very special to get.

[Fedora]

Yeah, not *all* the time. But, more often than just the normal special days. And sometimes just because something *really* good happens or something terrible happens.

This seems so logical now that you explain it--I'm kicking myself for not noticing this myself all the times I've made this mistake! Definitely makes sense.

[msdrby]

Yeah, when you get to know someone very well, you can detect the subtle differences in personality that tell you today she might need a pick-me-up. My dad was that way with my mother. He would completely surprise her *exactly* when she needed it. Itmay have been that he loved her so much, or that he just always was thinkign of different ways to honor her. Sometimes his littles gifts were a bit off the mark, but they were ALWAYS appreciated. Mom didn't *really* care what it was, it was that Dad gave it to her that made it special.

[Fedora]

Ya made me spit my drink of water!!!

LOL!

I dunno! Just like 'em! They're pretty, colorful, smell nice. I think they're very special to get.

Well, as long as it works, I guess I don't need to know why--ROFL!

[Fedora]

Yeah, when you get to know someone very well, you can detect the subtle differences in personality that tell you today she might need a pick-me-up.

Okay, this is getting into a different subject, but this raises another thing I've had a hard time with: what is the best way for the guy to deal with it if the woman is depressed, either from PMS or otherwise? 'Cause sometimes I've tried to offer a pick-me-up but it seems like I manage to do the wrong thing with good intentions somehow. What is the best way to cheer up a woman who's depressed without getting her mad at you in the process?

[Fedora]

What is the best way to cheer up a woman who's depressed without getting her mad at you in the process?

PS: I mean, other than chocolate :)

[Wneighbor]

Fedora, you gotta have a lady that treats you that way too though. It needs to go both ways. I've gone on *way* too much on this topic. :-)

But, everyone who deserves to be treated that way would treat you like a king as well. You oughtta not settle for less. You guys need to be spoiled and pampered too. So, don't fall into something with someone who doesn't reciprocate in some way.

A really good romance is when *both* people are doin' the romancin'. Things are really cool that way!

[Wneighbor]

Mom didn't *really* care what it was, it was that Dad gave it to her that made it special.

There is that too! :-D

Sometimes it's not something really understood huh?

But, the other thing is, it really ticks me off to see women who are getting treated nicely like this and *don't* appreciate it. Or reciprocate. eeek!

But, self-centeredness seems to be a problem for some of both genders huh?

[msdrby]

I agree with WN on this, btu you could start with a large spoon (make that two large spoons) and a half gallon of her favorite ice cream.

[Wneighbor]

Well, as long as it works, I guess I don't need to know why--ROFL!

Yeah! And what you really want to know is if the lady is as smitten with wildflowers as I am!!! They're free! LOL

Gees they could make me goose pimply all over when he stopped by the side of the road to pick 'em for me too!!! LOL

Somewhere along the lines I shoulda developed more refined tastes huh?

[msdrby]

Heh, he also needs to know about any allergies she might have to wild flowers!

[Wneighbor]

What is the best way to cheer up a woman who's depressed without getting her mad at you in the process?

Call Ramius now!!! LOL

Then *might* be a good time to leave and go for that beer!

Of course, mere breathing can be a problem for you to be doing then! Sorry.....

[Fedora]

But, everyone who deserves to be treated that way would treat you like a king as well. You oughtta not settle for less. You guys need to be spoiled and pampered too.

Hey, I'm not gonna argue with that!--sounds good to me--LOL!

[Wneighbor]

I agree with WN on this, btu you could start with a large spoon (make that two large spoons) and a half gallon of her favorite ice cream.

Oh! That's a very good idea!

[msdrby]

Okay, I hate to leave this close to a precious, but I have done it before, and it's time for bed.

'night all

[Fedora]

>What is the best way to cheer up a woman who's depressed without getting her mad at you in the process?

Call Ramius now!!! LOL

I think Ramius' Wild Turkey must help in that department--ROFL!