[msdrby]

Yeah, when you get to know someone very well, you can detect the subtle differences in personality that tell you today she might need a pick-me-up. My dad was that way with my mother. He would completely surprise her *exactly* when she needed it. Itmay have been that he loved her so much, or that he just always was thinkign of different ways to honor her. Sometimes his littles gifts were a bit off the mark, but they were ALWAYS appreciated. Mom didn't *really* care what it was, it was that Dad gave it to her that made it special.

[Fedora]

Yeah, when you get to know someone very well, you can detect the subtle differences in personality that tell you today she might need a pick-me-up.

Okay, this is getting into a different subject, but this raises another thing I've had a hard time with: what is the best way for the guy to deal with it if the woman is depressed, either from PMS or otherwise? 'Cause sometimes I've tried to offer a pick-me-up but it seems like I manage to do the wrong thing with good intentions somehow. What is the best way to cheer up a woman who's depressed without getting her mad at you in the process?

[Wneighbor]

Mom didn't *really* care what it was, it was that Dad gave it to her that made it special.

There is that too! :-D

Sometimes it's not something really understood huh?

But, the other thing is, it really ticks me off to see women who are getting treated nicely like this and *don't* appreciate it. Or reciprocate. eeek!

But, self-centeredness seems to be a problem for some of both genders huh?