[MozartLover]

Dear Fellow Mommies,

I just stopped by girchild's place to drop something off. She looked.....down. So I asked her if she was okay. She sort of shrugged and said "rough day." I asked her if she wanted to talk about it; she said "It won't do any good to whine." I said, no, but sometimes it helps to "spill". She just sort of shrugged again and shook her head. So I left.

I think her therapist doesn't want her "dumping" on me all the time the way she used to.......but sheesh, it's hard not knowing what the trouble is..........but OTOH she is entitled to her privacy and if she doesn't want to talk I have to respect that.......OTOH.........oh sheesh.......grapple, grapple........

Was I right in not pressing her further? Was SHE right in wanting to deal with whatever it is on her own??Am I an idiot for even letting things like this bother me???

[kayak]

Yes.

Conditional yes.

NO!

[Utah Girl]

Ugh, I feel so petty about my problems, I'll vent anyway. Today my supervisor pulled me in and said that after a meeting today, it was quite obvious that they didn't have the resources necessary to do the job. So I have been invited back to work, the contract will be another year, guaranteed...I have to tell them by Thursday afternoon.

And I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions again. I bought a surge protector and a print cartridge, then cried all the way home in my car. Relief??? I don't know. So I'm writing down the pros and cons of staying. My mom had a good point, evn though I don't have benefits or paid vacation or paid holidays, I wouldn't have the same thing if I didn't take the new contract, plus I wouldn't have a paycheck either.

OTOH, I would be a year older, no closer to putting money in a 401K, and potentially having to start over again somewhere else. Ugh. I hate decisions and I hate job interviews. Thanks for listening. :)

[Molly Pitcher]

MozartLover, dear, I think you did the best thing. You offered to listen....as a GROWNUP, she refused, and as another ADULT, you let it go. Now try not to second-guess what happened, hard as it is not to do so.

It sounds to me like you and E. have boundary issues...and by not accepting your offer, she took an important step toward independence....My 2 cents....Hugs to you. Huge hugs...