Posted on 11/21/2024 5:20:58 AM PST by Enterprise
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 64-year-old guy. I am single and have two daughters and four grandkids. A young woman (“Sarah”), who is my daughter’s age, and I have been hiking buddies for the past five years. I treat her like my third daughter and a family member. Sarah is married, and her husband does not enjoy hiking. Her husband and my daughters accept our friendship and are happy that I found a person I can hike with.
I have been dating a lady (“Toni”) who is close to my age. Six months ago, I suggested we should spend our lives together. My daughters and Sarah were happy for me. Toni rejected my proposal, citing that I must have some kind of romantic relationship with Sarah.
When I mentioned it to Sarah, she distanced from me. I think she thinks she may have interfered with my relationship with Toni. We’re still friends but not like before. Should I talk to Sarah and ask why she distanced from me? I feel depressed about this and have some remorse. I should not have told her what Toni said.
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This story and thread are a waste of electrons. He said, she said, blah, blah, blah...
I’m too old for this *stuff*.
It is not an age thing for me and my apologies for indicating it that way. It is the marital status thing.
That made me LOL! When a new breakfast place opened in our neighborhood years ago, with a Cantonese woman as proprietor, my kid and I wandered in and ordered egg sandwiches. She put the eggs on the grill, and suddenly turned around and screeched, "SAHL PEPPAH?" in that loud rusty gearshift voice, and we both nearly jumped out of our skins. We try to startle each other with it to this day!
He probably has bad breath and doesn't realize that, either. hahahhaha
Ah, the “passive male” syndrome. Passive men want a woman to run their lives, but then they can blame her if things go wrong. They "resist" by gaslighting, denial and dishonesty. He is displaying poor moral leadership and a lack of accountability for his own thoughts, motives and actions. Toni and Sarah both lucked out.
“Some women just can’t stand the thought of their husbands or boyfriends speaking to another woman, no matter the relationship. Some men are the same way about their wife speaking to another man.”
Speaking to another woman is one thing. Going on long hikes alone in the woods for hours on end, is another. And you can let your wife have a private relationship with a man and go spend hours in his company if you want.
But to me, such a person is clearly not ready for a wife or husband.
And maybe she doesn’t want to hike. Why does this simp need a “hiking buddy” anyway? You wanna hike, go hike. But taking a married woman half you age along that you have a relationship with...(he said she’s like a daughter lol) that’s too far.
Next thing you know it’s an overnight hike. “You’re being irrational honey, we both have our own tents”.
Where does it stop. The woman had self respect and she dodged a bullet.
“This obsession some people have about age between consenting adults is just strange to me.”
Nobody cares about the age difference. But people don’t like being treated like they are stupid. If he is any normal red blooded male, out doing things alone with a woman half his age, everyone knows exactly what he wishes he could make happen.
And if he doesn’t, his wife was gonna be married to a low-T beta anyway and the bedroom would suffer.
You’d let your wife have a boyfriend she goes sailing, hiking, or fishing with..... for hours at a time?
Very California...
“. me thinks the guy had a tiny crush on Sarah regardless of what he says.”
He’s lying to everyone, including himself. He’d hit it like a bass on a rubber frog. He’d hit it like Thor’s Hammer if he could.
He just can’t figure out the Rubiks cube solution to make her panties fall off.
That's what I think, we need photos of his hiking "buddy".
“A guy shouldn’t have female friends he spends extended time with.”
Exactly. It they aren’t worth pursuing as a woman, they are mostly using you as their emotional tampon. And pretty much the world has known the truth about M/F friendships dor thousands of years.
LOL... you got that right!
A friend of her son, half her age, who has been a friend a long time before I met her? We are in our 60’s. Sure.
Wow. Thank you for writing that! I am glad you were able to help her!!!!
Is this her?
https://www.instagram.com/hotgirlhikesxo/
...oh...There's a reason nobody comes to me for advice.
as my buddy Rocco would say “banging like a storm door in a hurricane.”
LOL... I’m gonna steal that one.
Hey jackass, no one can know what’s really going on. My best guess is “Dear Abbey” writes the questions. But I guess you know these people personally.
Maybe I missed it but thought he goes hiking with a group including his daughter.
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