Posted on 12/13/2022 7:26:38 PM PST by Rummyfan
"... including the disproportionate amount of work that tends to fall on them at home. Sana Akhand, 33, who lived a 30-minute walk from her husband in New York City from October 2021 to June of this year, said that living apart allowed her to create the life she aspired to since girlhood, which included having a successful career in addition to finding love.... She said she [had begun] to lose her 'rebellion and independent nature' and 'just fell into super-traditional roles and paths of life, like being the wife.... Being a wife is subconsciously really draining, because you’re just thinking about this other person, their well-being,' Ms. Akhand said.... There are many factors that appear to contribute to making the model more socially acceptable. One is the growing visibility and acceptance of relationships that don’t look like the traditional heterosexual marriage, with all its attendant pressures and stereotypes..."
From "The Wife Left, but They’re Still Together/After a pandemic dip, the number of married couples 'living apart together' has started to rise again. And women, in search of their own space, are driving the increase" (NYT).
The comments over there stress something you're probably thinking: It's expensive to have 2 homes. And: If what you want to break free of stereotypical gender roles, why not change yourself right where you are? Why must you go away? But those are questions about what's easier and what's harder (and whether you must do everything the easy way).
With covid, things were not traditional. People were living together — and working in the same space — much more than is traditional. The old convention was for the husband and wife to have different spheres of activity during the day. I can see wanting a separate workspace at some location away from home ...
(Excerpt) Read more at althouse.blogspot.com ...
If they're single, that's bad. If they get married that's bad. If they get divorced, that's bad. If their husbands are away - that's bad. But if he's hanging around the house too much, that's bad too. If they work, they'r stressed out. If they stay at home, they're bored.
Its tragic. The life of the American woman.
At least the ones that read the NYT's.
Meanwhile, the internet and air travel have provided western men with many options for access to women who are not Feminist, man-hating, selfish, it’s all about me, women.
There are a great many options available for men seeking a traditional man-woman relationship.
Crazy woman. If you are a guy and you are pulling up with that, remove your testicles right now.
In other words, sleep around.
“you’re just thinking about this other person, their well-being.....”
That’s the point of a successful marriage.
Cuckold.
As my divorce attorney shamed me when we met...
“[SW] my dad is a retired Marine. You know what he would’ve told you? “Son, those are the one you play with, not the ones you marry’”
Painful lesson learned, which I only needed to learn once!
Annie’s elevator don’t go all the way to the top. ROTFL.
What’s that supposed to mean?
IOW, it allowed her to be selfish.
you’re just thinking about this other person, their well-being
Honey, that's called love.
Yep.
Hard to become “one flesh” with that sort of arrangement.
These women are called “Rent to Own” types, best thing is not to make that final payment.
I wonder what Christmas presents her husband bought for her boyfriend?
Circle back to the 33-year-old in 10 years and see if she bitterly lives alone with cats and a box of wine in the fridge.
Fat NYC slut finds out no one else is interested?
What would be the point of the guy staying married to her then? This woman is basically making herself irrelevant in her marriage. The guy would be much better off divorcing her since she’s made herself useless as a wife.
That’s a stupid way to have a marriage. Living apart actually shows you have no commitment or support, and I’m seriously doubting the “love” part. What do they do? Get together every Friday night for sex (if neither one has other plans)?
As to “ burdens that traditionally come with being a wife...”, that assumes a husband makes no adjustments to his life at all. And, why do they call them “burdens”? Doing things for the person you love is supposed to be a thoughtful gesture on the part of both the husband and the wife.
This story is more aptly titled “The Whore and The Cuck” but the true title is more likely “The Gay Man and His Beard”.
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