Posted on 12/08/2022 7:14:41 AM PST by Brookhaven
My senior manager recently left her husband for another man. This new relationship is very unstable in that they split up on an almost weekly basis. I’ve known my manager for over 20 years, but she has only recently come to work in our team. When she and the new man split up, it is always his decision and she takes it really badly and it severely affects things at work. She will tell everyone about her problems and regularly posts about it on social media. She has called me at home in a state and I’ve spent hours with her trying to console her. But now I’m beginning to feel smothered by her, she won’t leave me alone outside of work, and me and my colleagues are literally carrying her at work and we get no thanks from her for it. I’m at the end of my tether.
(Excerpt) Read more at askamanager.org ...
The new guy wants a hookup, not a wife.
Sounds like the STBX husband may have gotten a break.
The link doesn’t work. I clicked on it because I was like “manager of what, exactly...?’
Respond with scripture. She will stop coming to you for comfort and advice.
Women…
The Grass is Always Greener Over the Septic Tank
Sounds like a job for Nelson Muntz.
You rejected your husband, to whom you were committed.
Now you complain because you are being rejected by someone who was NEVER committed to you.
If you haven't learned from your mistake, there is no possibility that I can help you. (so please quit asking!)
Well done! That would probably work.
Companies have HR departments for things like this.
I’m assuming someone posted this because they are facing something similar.
Literally- find a new employer. This woman has ruined your career there and there is really nothing you can do to fix it. Even if you go to HR there is going to be bad feelings and a social stigma that cannot be escaped.
There is an old adage: “Don’t shit where you eat.” This manager has done that and has ruined the food for all those around her. It’s time for you to escape.
When there is drama at work you have a choice to make. Accept it as part of how things are or move to another workplace to get away from it. Once the drama is there then its very very unlikely to go away unless the cause of the drama has their employment terminated. Trying to get them terminated never works out right.
My personal thought is that there should never be drama at work.
She is obviously not a Democrat, as they would know instinctively what to do: File sexual harrassment charges against the manager, get her fired, post all her secrets on social medial to smear her when she goes to get another job, then tell management she’s gay and will be pursuing a civil rights lawsuit unless she’s given the manager’s job and salary increase.
Garden tool.
And the bitching and moaning at work is sexual harassment. Seriously, sweetie: Shut up about it. Nobody Cares.
“I’m at the end of my tether.”
You’re in need of Dr. Tarr and Professor Feather.
Remind her of the pain/pleasure balance. If the pain is higher than the pleasure, then it’s time to leave that relationship.
Link worked for me as well.
The sounding board friend honestly needs to speak with the personnel department about this. If the company has an EAP the women needs to be told she needs to take advantage of the program so she can spill her woes to a therapist as her obsession could very well be having a detrimental effect on her job performance.
Why should the woman being constantly bothered by this manager be the one to leave the job? This has become a problem for the personnel and upper management. They should deal with it by telling the manager she needs to get help and be evaluated for fitness for duty. Since she has no respect for boundaries the woman being bugged should end the friendship.
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