I’m an attractive, heterosexual woman who wants no-strings-attached sex. Where do I find [tr]

Slate ^ | April 9, 2019 | Stoya

[C19fan]

Dear How to Do It,

I am a single woman in her early 30s. I’m attractive and have never had issues attracting a partner. But after a series of disappointing relationships, each around a year, I’m just not in a mood to engage emotionally with men right now. The thing is, I have a high sex drive, and I can’t fully satisfy myself on my own—though believe me, I try. The cliché is that this should be an easy problem to fix: Plenty of men want to have sex with a woman with no strings, right? Here are my limitations: In the past, when I’ve had hookup buddies, I like them, but it never really is just sex—we inevitably get to know each other better and then I end up getting entangled with him, whether I want to or not. I also am not really into sex parties or the poly scene; for better or worse, I like the intimacy of one-on-one connections, even if all I want is sex right now.

[Go Gordon]

Have you ever heard a real woman call herself a “person with a vagina”? Or write a letter like this?

Maybe the person was a guy that had the operation, and his new V just doesn't give him the pleasure he was used to when he was getting it from behind.

[Secret Agent Man]

I think a new male sex doll will be what shes looking for.

Women buy about 6% of sex dolls, and rising. Its not ever gonna be as high as men because they sex dolls dont give them money and also cant be their personal emotional tampons.

[dp0622]

:) :)

Where was it? My 20s were mostly in the ‘90s and I recall the name but not much else.

It sounds like it was great!

[rlmorel]

Hahahahahahahaha...

[9YearLurker]

Humble brag.

[sparklite2]

Because you simply CANNOT have sexual intercourse without consequences. It just doesn’t exist.

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If her relationships lasted about a year, there’s a problem. Anything that long develops ‘strings.’ She’s needs to stay with ‘slam, bam, thank you ma’am,’ which might occasion some creeps, but to women, aren’t all guys fundamentally creeps anyway?

[DannyTN]

This thread is useless without pictures.

[Secret Agent Man]

But its fake. They fake interest in the hobbies, get a guy, then demand he stop his hobbies they never were truly interested.

[karnage]

Yes!!!

[al baby]

Oh LAZ ?

[rlmorel]

LOL, if she can’t attract a man when so many of them are wearing beer goggles, there HAS to be SOME kind of thing that keeps them from jumping her bones!

[PapaBear3625]

“I am a person with a vagina, but I have never enjoyed vaginal penetration. But I do enjoy anal sex. How do I broach this with a potential sex partner without it being weird?” Have you ever heard a real woman call herself a “person with a vagina”? Or write a letter like this?

Sounds more like a transgender whose operation did not go well.

[Yaelle]

Soy sauce???

[SaxxonWoods]

“Because you simply CANNOT have sexual intercourse without consequences. It just doesn’t exist.”

Correct, YOU cannot.

Some people can, and do.

[Yaelle]

Pathetic wanker

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Maybe the most literal use of this expression ever

[dp0622]

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’ll tell you later in a private mail :)

LOL!!

[mumblypeg]

I suggest this woman consider reading men’s forums, in order to get a clue what an average male thinks of women such as herself.
She’d encounter a lot of eye-opening terms like “psycho,” “neurotic,” “cum dumpster” and “pump & dump” often enough to trigger a reconsideration of her entire life.

[Responsibility2nd]

“Because you simply CANNOT have sexual intercourse without consequences. It just doesn’t exist.”

Correct, YOU cannot.

Some people can, and do.

 

Nope. You might get away with this legally, socially, medically, and even emotionally if you are a big enough social misfit creep.

But there are always moral consequences. There's no place in Heaven for sluts.

[doorgunner69]

Head on down to da ‘hood. Lotsa bruthas will hook up with you, no strings.

[Mr. Jeeves]

I tend to believe these kinds of letters are written by the columnist, based on what the columnist thinks people ought to be asking. Similar to all the phony Trump-hating letters to the editor in newspapers that somehow manage to hit all of the exact talking points the editorial staff wants aired.