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NY Mag Article: "Feminist" Men Should be Okay with Wives Having Sex with Others
The Social Memo ^ | 7/17/15 | Aurelius

Posted on 07/17/2015 12:41:42 PM PDT by rightistight

In a disturbing piece published in NY Mag, Michael Sonmore said that he's okay with his wife having sex with random men because he's a feminist.

The article is titled, "What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism" and details Sonmore's "open" relationship with his wife.

It begins with this paragraph (emphasis mine): "As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist."

Sonmore then writes about a realization he had: "It wasn’t until my wife mentioned one evening that she’d kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife [expletive] only me."

According to Sonmore, he realized not letting his wife sleep with other men was part of the Patriarchy: "She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control."

He continues, "We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap."

Sickeningly, Sonmore writes, "The point is that it should be women who choose, not men — even the men they’re married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap."

Then he explains when he became a feminist: "When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist."


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To: rightistight
This isn't going to end well. Divorce, murder-suicide, both of them finding another man...

I'm betting on choice #3.
61 posted on 07/17/2015 1:59:20 PM PDT by farming pharmer
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To: rightistight

Michaelson cited a 2013 study finding that “about half of gay marriages surveyed . . . [are] not strictly monogamous.” He called this fact “well-known in the gay community,” adding that “we assume it’s more like three-quarters” that are not monogamous. They are, to cite a now-popular phrase, “monagam-ish.”

So the LBGTA definition of open marriage is spreading into liberal heterosexual marriages.


62 posted on 07/17/2015 2:21:24 PM PDT by tbw2
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To: B212

You didn’t read it. She is the breadwinner.


63 posted on 07/17/2015 2:28:32 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: rightistight

Oh, I get it. Male feminist = cockhold

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold

Can’t bring myself to read the article.

Does she allow him to have sex with other women as he chooses as well or is this a decidedly one way street? What happens if she decides to have children by her lover? Is he going to be responsible to pay for raising them? Under current law he probably is. (It’s all about the children, you know.)

This “man” doesn’t have a shred of respect for marriage, his children or himself. He, and any man who imitates his sorry example, will get exactly what they deserve.


64 posted on 07/17/2015 2:30:51 PM PDT by Captain Rhino (Determined effort today forges tomorrow)
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To: rightistight

“The point is that it should be women who choose, not men...”
This is the Core of Polyamory.
This is also why it will be the next big push.


65 posted on 07/17/2015 2:41:19 PM PDT by Zathras
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To: rightistight

More wonders from NYC.


66 posted on 07/17/2015 2:48:24 PM PDT by SWAMPSNIPER (The Second Amendment, a Matter of Fact, Not A Matter of Opinion)
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To: rightistight

Imagine what he is willing to do with his children...

“Sure Daquan, you can deflower my seven year old...because God knows I’m not racist...”


67 posted on 07/17/2015 3:14:20 PM PDT by Molon Labbie (Prep. Now. Live Healthy, take your Shooting Iron daily.)
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To: needmorePaine
I don't consider a large percentage of the people in the US to be my countrymen.

Likewise. In fact, I'd say a clear majority are not on the same planet I prefer to occupy.

68 posted on 07/17/2015 3:24:13 PM PDT by madprof98
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To: akalinin

Ever seen Boogie Nights...


69 posted on 07/17/2015 3:27:36 PM PDT by EEGator
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To: rightistight

LIBs are truly mentally disturbed.


70 posted on 07/17/2015 3:29:04 PM PDT by hal ogen (First Amendment or Reeducation Camp?)
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To: rightistight
"my status as a Man depended on a single fact"

Not a healthy state of mind.

71 posted on 07/17/2015 3:33:41 PM PDT by Savage Beast ("Inside every 'Liberal' is a totalitarian screaming to get out!")
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To: rightistight

Do you suppose he wants to know all the details?


72 posted on 07/17/2015 3:35:07 PM PDT by Savage Beast ("Inside every 'Liberal' is a totalitarian screaming to get out!")
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To: fhayek

Sounds like a metro man with manic depression


73 posted on 07/17/2015 3:36:36 PM PDT by inchworm
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To: Zathras
“The point is that it should be women who choose, not men...”

Yeah, because women are soooooo well-known for being decisive, goal-oriented, never second-guessing, and never regretting their choices. Ahem.

74 posted on 07/17/2015 3:40:58 PM PDT by Teacher317 (We have now sunk to a depth at which restatement of the obvious is the first duty of intelligent men)
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To: rightistight

A real man would demand that she bring home $500 every time she sleeps around.


75 posted on 07/17/2015 3:41:42 PM PDT by Moonman62 (The US has become a government with a country, rather than a country with a government.)
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To: econjack
...and she’s married to an idiot.

maybe he's ok with it because as a liberal, he's unsure of his own sexual "orientation"

76 posted on 07/17/2015 3:57:37 PM PDT by atc23 (The Confederacy was the single greatest conservative resistance to federal authority ever)
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To: EEGator
Ever seen Boogie Nights...

No, a little after my time. Some of the younger people I work with saw it, so I got the verbal cliff's notes from them...
77 posted on 07/17/2015 4:12:35 PM PDT by farming pharmer
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To: ctdonath2
Swordmaker's and Kathy's proposed diagnosis for the new IDC-10 addenda:

321.0 SPLAT Liberal Cerebral Defenestration (LCD) or Liberal Acquired Brain Absence (LABA), Complete loss of rationality, cognition, and cerebration due to indiscriminately keeping one's mind so far open that the brain falls out. First and subsequent encounters.

78 posted on 07/17/2015 7:47:39 PM PDT by Swordmaker ( This tag line is a Microsoft insult free zone... but if the insults to Mac users continue...)
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To: Molon Labbie
Imagine what he is willing to do with his children...

His children? How can he know? Might be Paulo's children. . . or any one's children in the neighborhood's children. . . with his "wife's" attitude, they could have gotten their DNA from anyone with the proper male appendage, except her "husband."

79 posted on 07/17/2015 7:52:27 PM PDT by Swordmaker ( This tag line is a Microsoft insult free zone... but if the insults to Mac users continue...)
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To: rightistight

I thought feminists didn’t need men..


80 posted on 07/17/2015 8:04:05 PM PDT by jughandle (Big words anger me, keep talking.)
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