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NY Mag Article: "Feminist" Men Should be Okay with Wives Having Sex with Others
The Social Memo ^ | 7/17/15 | Aurelius

Posted on 07/17/2015 12:41:42 PM PDT by rightistight

In a disturbing piece published in NY Mag, Michael Sonmore said that he's okay with his wife having sex with random men because he's a feminist.

The article is titled, "What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism" and details Sonmore's "open" relationship with his wife.

It begins with this paragraph (emphasis mine): "As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist."

Sonmore then writes about a realization he had: "It wasn’t until my wife mentioned one evening that she’d kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife [expletive] only me."

According to Sonmore, he realized not letting his wife sleep with other men was part of the Patriarchy: "She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control."

He continues, "We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap."

Sickeningly, Sonmore writes, "The point is that it should be women who choose, not men — even the men they’re married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap."

Then he explains when he became a feminist: "When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist."


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To: rightistight

Just another screwed up liberal.

21 posted on 07/17/2015 12:51:22 PM PDT by Obadiah (This is Bravo-6, we have Zips in the wire! I repeat, Zips in the wire.)
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To: rightistight

What a spineless faggot.


22 posted on 07/17/2015 12:51:32 PM PDT by EEGator
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To: rightistight

What he is is a cuckold.

But then again, he is a liberal male, and therefore lost his b*lls long long aho, in a galaxey far, far away.


23 posted on 07/17/2015 12:51:49 PM PDT by Da Coyote
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To: rightistight
There are three options here:

(1) It fulfills a fantasy for him.

(2) It provides him cover for his own activities.

(3) She financially supports him.

The most important part of the story is missing.

24 posted on 07/17/2015 12:51:51 PM PDT by wideawake
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To: rightistight

“Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control.”

So, when women insist that men be monogamous, logic dictates they must be doing that to control our sexuality and institute an oppressive matriarchy, right?


25 posted on 07/17/2015 12:52:10 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: rightistight
If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap.

Who is making the judgment in bold? It's not The Oppressive Patriarchy, or whatever. It's the crowd that embraces "if it feels good, do it." I would never call a woman boring or lame for enjoying monogamy. I would say she is healthy and normal, but I guess that's my privilege talking.

Seriously, I don't consider a large percentage of the people in the US to be my countrymen. I could live out the rest of my days never encountering people such as this feminist male and his strumpet wife and be happy and at peace.
26 posted on 07/17/2015 12:52:49 PM PDT by needmorePaine
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To: Darksheare
Hmm.. how many diseases do they have so far?

Gives new meaning to the term "multi-cultural." (bacteria, viruses)

27 posted on 07/17/2015 12:53:57 PM PDT by The Ghost of FReepers Past (Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light..... Isaiah 5:20)
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To: rightistight

Wow...

“When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none”(Matt 12:43). Jesus speaks from the point of view of a demon evicted from its home. He has been displaced, and is obviously unhappy about it. He travels, “seeking rest, and finds none”—a miserable, unsatisfied existence. “Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes he finds it empty, swept, and put in order”(Matt 12:44). The unclean spirit attempts to again possess the man who was his home—and finds the man more than willing to have him back! Not only is he allowed entry, but the house is empty, swept, and put in order—ready for demon habitation! “Then he goes and take with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first”(Matt 12:45). Finding his home far better than he left it, he decides to bring seven worse spirits so they can all live together and torment this man. Truly does Jesus say, “the last state of that man is worse than the first”. Jesus makes the application: “So shall it also be with this wicked generation”(Matt 12:45).


28 posted on 07/17/2015 12:55:08 PM PDT by EBH
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To: rightistight
"According to Sonmore, he realized not letting his wife sleep with other men was part of the Patriarchy"

(Assuming he ever had one)

29 posted on 07/17/2015 12:56:39 PM PDT by DemforBush (Ex-Democrat, and NotforJeb. Just so we're clear.)
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To: The Ghost of FReepers Past

True.
And like the tagline for Pokémon: “Gotta catch ‘em all!”


30 posted on 07/17/2015 12:57:00 PM PDT by Darksheare (Those who support liberal "Republicans" summarily support every action by same.)
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To: rightistight

Yikes, what a loser.


31 posted on 07/17/2015 12:57:09 PM PDT by Fido969
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To: rightistight
Doesn't he know that "wife" is no longer PC? He should refer to her as his "partner".

This is not only politically correct, but factually accurate. The are no longer husband and wife, but simply partners in raising some babies they made.

32 posted on 07/17/2015 12:57:45 PM PDT by tacticalogic
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To: rightistight

The article is one of the great examples of self-delusion. He marries a slut, doesn’t have the balls to throw her out and comes up with some pitiful screed to justify his lack of courage. Pathetic. I feel more sorry for the kids having these two worthless dregs as role models.


33 posted on 07/17/2015 12:57:53 PM PDT by Seruzawa (All those memories will be lost,in time, like tears in rain.)
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To: rightistight

This is about Bill and Hill, right?


34 posted on 07/17/2015 12:58:42 PM PDT by petitfour
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To: Boogieman
"You're not a eunuch...are you?"


35 posted on 07/17/2015 1:02:40 PM PDT by EEGator
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To: rightistight

Well that relationship can’t end well.


36 posted on 07/17/2015 1:03:04 PM PDT by Mike Darancette (Barack Obama is not inarguably sane.)
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To: colorado tanker
He’s not a feminist. He’s well on his way to being a divorcee.

precisely. One day pretty soon she will find a man she likes better.

37 posted on 07/17/2015 1:03:28 PM PDT by RatRipper
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[rant on]
OK, I’ve just about had it with loud proclamations about bizarre & absurd ideas like this thread’s. We’ve got a nation of over 300,000,000 people; we don’t have to be made aware of the rantings of every crackpot with a microphone or website. It’s just contributing to the “news fatigue”, where stuff that actually matters gets a shrug because it’s just another in a long line of shocking/outrageous reasoning with almost zero perspective on its context & following, akin to giving every “demonstration” the low-and-close photo angle making a 10-person “crowd” look like a force to be reckoned with.

Trying to keep tabs on real news without getting sucked into BS is like trying to move Br’er Fox’s tar baby. I don’t want to touch it lest I get stuck, but I still have to know what’s going on. I’ve given up on Drudge for that reason, MSM is akin to the LaBrea Tar Pits, and even FR is getting rather sticky. I come here to find & follow topics that matter, but still have to wade thru hyped insanity. ARGH!

I keep thinking there should be (and maybe I should start) a curator website featuring “100 News Topics You Must Follow”, avoiding the inconsequential crap (like this thread’s lead story; don’t get me wrong, it’s viscerally entertaining like a road accident) and keeping an eye on stuff that matters but comes-and-goes over long periods.
[rant off]

‘scuze me. Shutting up now.


38 posted on 07/17/2015 1:05:28 PM PDT by ctdonath2 (The world map will be quite different come 20 January 2017.)
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To: rightistight

If you laid all of the feminists in the world end to end, it would be the best thing that ever happened to them.


39 posted on 07/17/2015 1:05:48 PM PDT by Hillarys Gate Cult (Liberals make unrealistic demands on reality and reality doesn't oblige them.)
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To: colorado tanker

yes a divorce, where “she” takes 50% of the family assets and a comfortable monthly allowance, so she can live in the manner in which she is accustomed......


40 posted on 07/17/2015 1:05:54 PM PDT by B212
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