Posted on 02/02/2015 12:28:23 PM PST by rfreedom4u
My daughter will turn 19 this month. She is our fifth child. She has also been the most worrying to us as she started using drugs a long time ago. She said she first smoked weed at age 12. Since then she has gone on the try many other drugs to include meth, cocaine, pills and LSD and a few others I can’t name. Last year she was in intensive care for 8 days. She has also been in jail about seven or eight times and gone through rehab twice. She is currently living with her mother and I at home but things are getting very tense. She broke up with her boyfriend and says that the stress of breakup makes her want to go get high and chill with her friends. Her friends are not true friends as they are also on drugs. Every time she hangs out with them she stays wasted for a couple days and I had to take her to the ER twice due to overdose on alcohol. Add to all this she has been beat up several times and raped twice that she has admitted to. When you add into this chaos the fact that my wife suffers from a mental illness which is made worse with stress it gets even more chaotic. Now I am at the point where I will soon have to make the choice of allowing my wife to be hospitalized because of her mental illness or I put my daughter out because of the strife she is causing. We’ve offered her all the help in the world and she continues to go on binges and tell us that what we offer won’t help. The last time she got wasted she told us all to “Go f***” ourselves. That night she left the house and was brought home by the police when they found her walking down the highway. As a parent I love my daughter endlessly. But I don’t see how (or why) I should continue to allow her to destroy the rest of the family. But at the same time I feel guilty for what I am considering. We can’t force her into treatment as she is an “adult” and I’m afraid that she will either end up in prison or dead. All this started I believe because she started smoking weed. The weed lowered her inhibitions and resistance and she started doing other drugs. So I truly believe that weed is a gateway drug and should never be legalized. If someone needs it for medicinal purposes they should have to go to a pharmacy for it just like we do with other prescription medications. It hurts me to do it, but I think I may be evicting her from the house today when I get home from work.
Prayers good you and your family.
my sister started on cannabis and got more and more into drugs. So much so she lost her kids, ended up in prison etc
She was smoking the drug while pregnant and even after she had the kids who were inhaling the crap and now which affects the kids.
I know another guy who smoked it and got to the point he could not be bothered with going to work, thus he lost his job.
CO has seen record amount of kids being admitted to the E.R. because they saw cookies in the kitchen and ate them not knowing there were drugs, and also waiting for a bus and having to sit next to a junkie smoking his crap while getting others high should be a big no no either , but what do they care as long as they get their highs and use medical crap as an excuse.
Condolences.
However, I know lots of people who’ve smoked weed and are very successful. Everything is relative.
If I was you, I would change the locks. Tough love I guess. Too bad if she screams out front. Call the cops.
Your daughter is an adult. It sounds like you have bent over backwards...and now your wife’s health is in danger.
Time for very “tough love”. Straighten up, respect the parents or “out of the house” immediately. She is 19 - she is considered to be an adult.
My sympathies to you and your wife.
I pray for your family, but I’d be more concerned about the meth, cocaine, pills and LSD and a few others you can’t name along with a personality that incubates addiction than the marijuana. I am not advocating legalization, but your blame is misplaced. Both sides of the debate love misinformation.
You know what, I doubt it was the MJ. Genetically some people are just self abusive. It can be drugs, alcohol, pornography, sex and even food. It also does not mean she wasn’t raised improperly either. Don’t blame yourself and yes she does need help, but, she has to want it or nothing will help her get better. Sometimes tough love works and sometimes they wind up dead. Just let her know you are always there to help her beat this addiction when SHE wants it. I raised three kids myself, I know all about it.
Hard truth - her life patterns are set, unless she herself decides to change them.
Maybe prison isn't the worst alternative. A neice of mine started down this same road, ended up in jail for over a year. I guess she was scared straight, she's still out and productive 2 yrs. later.
YMMV
I truly believe that weed is a gateway drug
You also mentioned her alcohol use; all the same correlations that support a pot "gateway" also support an alcohol "gateway" (ditto for tobacco).
and should never be legalized.
Its criminalization didn't keep it out of your daughter's hands. In fact, since well before any state had legalized pot, teens have reported that they could get it more easily than beer or cigarettes ... which is to be expected since legal sellers card and illegal sellers don't.
This is an incredible group of people here.
I take great issue with the go F*** yourself comment your daughter made. She needs to be penalized severely for that.
Actions MUST have consequences.
Excuses excuses excuses.
She was given it at 12 years of age. Something that the proponents of legal use promised would never and could never happen.
I’ve got a sister-in-law that has been drugged out for about 20 years now. She’s had 16 kids too. Luckily only one has any damage from her drug use. He shakes a little but is ok other than that.
I’ve got a sister-in-law that has been drugged out for about 20 years now. She’s had 16 kids too. Luckily only one has any damage from her drug use. He shakes a little but is ok other than that.
I worked with a guy who blew a casino sign company to smithereens because he sat up in the loft all day smoking dope. Yes, it is a devil and I have no doubt legalization will do our country harm.
About the only thing you can do is lay out the life path that dopers inevitably take and where it ends. Then let your daughter decide. It is an impossible situation.
Well, it was illegal when she got it but she still got it didn’t she, gee this WOD is so successful.
rfreedom4u - I hope the best for you in this very difficult situation. Hopefully your daughter and your wife get what they need.
Believe me if I could I would. But her first time use was in Philadelphia and we are now in Texas.
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