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Why men are withdrawing from courtship.
Dalrock ^ | Dalrock

Posted on 11/16/2013 5:37:57 AM PST by ClaytonP

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To: FAA

I can tell you this as a 50 something survivor of multiple divorces.

It’s all about control. They change the rules to control you-you play the game and they own you. You don’t play the game and they will make your very existence hell until they tire of you, then you get tossed aside like trash after they have extracted every available penny from you

That’s why they identify with Dummycrats so well. The goal is the same.

You will also hear that they are all nuts. It’s true. The depths of the crazy vary and it can stay latent/dormant for a long time, but in the end, it will unleash on you. And you will stand there in confused amazement, wondering where the whirlwind came from.


21 posted on 11/16/2013 6:04:48 AM PST by 5Madman2 (There is no such thing as an experienced suicide bomber)
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To: Jonty30

Candy Is dandy, But liquor Is quicker


22 posted on 11/16/2013 6:05:10 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: ClaytonP
The women with whom I work fall into four basic categories:

1) In their 20s, shallow, eager to have fun, they make fun of guys who get serious, they want to party all the time at someone else's expense.
2) In their 30s, complaining about guys, complaining about being alone, miserable all the time -- but eager to go out drinking with the girls and have "fun".
3) Over 40, and alone. Bitter about how much men suck. Men just don't appreciate what a fine catch they are.
3) Over 40, and divorced. Bitter about that stupid marriage they had in their 20s and how it ruined their life -- they could have had fun, fun, fun but that loser ruined everything for them.

23 posted on 11/16/2013 6:07:41 AM PST by ClearCase_guy (21st century. I'm not a fan.)
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To: ClearCase_guy

Of course, not all men are prizes — some of us can’t even count to 4!


24 posted on 11/16/2013 6:08:25 AM PST by ClearCase_guy (21st century. I'm not a fan.)
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To: ClaytonP

Sorry ladies ... but the modern American women and what passes for values these days makes renting much more painless and less expensive than buying. Thank providence that I found the expectational Mrs Clamper.


25 posted on 11/16/2013 6:10:28 AM PST by clamper1797 (Evil WILL flourish when good men WILL not act)
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To: ClearCase_guy
Wanted: Woman with boat and motor, send picture of boat and motor.


26 posted on 11/16/2013 6:11:19 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: 9YearLurker
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Well, I just read the article posted and some other things as well ...


The question is "not" ... What were you buying her ? ...


rather .. it's that I gave her my heart ...


along with lost of free tree trimming, rain gutter cleaniong, painting, yard work ...

Starbucks coffee delivered to her door at leat 2-3 times a week in the mornings ...

casual lunches/evening dinners 2-3 times weekly ...

relatively expensive Saturday "date-night" dinners (Bonefish, etc) ...

always the Sunday "after church" dining fare, often at the Conscious Blossom organic eatery ...

fresh blueberries and kiwis delivered at least once a week in the mornings ...



This woman is the "romantic love of my life" ...

Yet after 4.5 years of courting, she still couldn't "make a committment" ...

and as a Christian guy, I wasn't interested in a "friends with benefits" relationship ...

I wanted to honor and lover her within the best structure, a life-long marriage.

Again, I'm glad I had the "life opportunity" to pour-out a wonderful affection and love for this woman ...

but, alas, it has literally almost "cost me my soul" ...





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27 posted on 11/16/2013 6:12:35 AM PST by Patton@Bastogne (Swine Piss be upon the Sodmite Obama, and his Child-Rapist False Prophet Mohammed)
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To: 5Madman2

5D, you may have some experienced years on me but our experiences would seem to provide stark evidence.

God Bless Al Bundy.


28 posted on 11/16/2013 6:13:50 AM PST by FAA
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To: ClaytonP

Men are with drawing today because women today are abusing their power in the relationship. Many of them are on drugs to keep their emotions stable and they keep changing the goals and expectations of the partnership on the young males due to their mood swings. Men don’t stay around for that.


29 posted on 11/16/2013 6:14:56 AM PST by bmwcyle (People who do not study history are destine to believe really ignorant statements.)
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To: ClaytonP
The older a woman is, the more likely it is that she is very picky and/or not seriously looking for a husband. Older women also are less attractive from a courtship perspective because they have used up more of their most attractive/fertile years, and while their attractiveness for marriage has declined their expectations for courtship have only increased. In short, the older a woman gets the worse a bet she becomes (on average) when it comes to courting her.

"Men grow cold as girls get old;
But diamonds are a girl's best friend"

"Diamonds are a Girl's Best Friend" - T-Bone Burnett

30 posted on 11/16/2013 6:15:46 AM PST by Hardastarboard (You can keep your doctor - if you lock him in your basement.)
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To: FAA
I haven't heard a single word of domestic complaint about the project spread out over the entire kitchen that is taking longer than I expected.

The catz just don't care. ;)

/johnny

31 posted on 11/16/2013 6:15:50 AM PST by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: JRandomFreeper

You’re thy guy that rebuilds transmissions in his bath tub. You may go in peace.


32 posted on 11/16/2013 6:17:28 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: Texas Eagle; ClaytonP

It’s all quite simple, really. In our modern society, feminization and socialism have devalued (and, in some cases, pathologized), the traditional contribution of a male to a committed relationship. There is also the increased sexualization of women (ala Sandra Fluke) to the point where it is difficult for many men to find women who haven’t already had a couple of kids with other men. As a result, marriage, can have more disadvantages than advantages for a man and many men are simply “going Galt” in the relationship world.


33 posted on 11/16/2013 6:18:11 AM PST by Behind Liberal Lines
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To: MaxMax

Ding ding ding! We have a winner.


34 posted on 11/16/2013 6:19:03 AM PST by Afterguard (Liberals will let you do anything you want, as long as it's mandatory.)
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To: ClaytonP

I think we now see why American men search overseas for their wives.


35 posted on 11/16/2013 6:19:51 AM PST by Uncle Chip
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To: FAA

Not just our experience-I have watched it through 30 years of Military and Police experience-friends and acquaintances that lived in pure hell no matter how hard they tried to do the right thing.

Crushed husks of men with no money and their souls sucked away.

They say no one understands women. If you remember the Nuts part and the rule change, you’ll understand.


36 posted on 11/16/2013 6:19:58 AM PST by 5Madman2 (There is no such thing as an experienced suicide bomber)
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To: 5Madman2

Truer words were never spoken.I commiserate with you my friend.I now tell every young man that the two most important words in the English language are Pre Nup.


37 posted on 11/16/2013 6:20:39 AM PST by johnny reb (When in the course of human events.....)
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To: ClaytonP

The problem here in the USA is that women are the sole source provider of legal ‘tang’. In other, more civilized countries, this not the case. The USA is anti male.


38 posted on 11/16/2013 6:22:57 AM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: ClaytonP

Well, that was as goofy a screed as any I have ever waded through.

All that mumbo jumbo, and the topic of children is never broached. Its critical regarding the never marrying contingent.


39 posted on 11/16/2013 6:26:21 AM PST by MrEdd (iHeck? Geewhiz Cripes, thats the place where people who don't believe in Gosh think they aint going.)
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To: ClaytonP
men courting for marriage. For these men, having a fairly low age cutoff makes a great deal of sense.

So, then, this whole article was an attempt to justify why older men want to date younger women... lol. Nice try.

Note: Men wanted to date (and marry) younger women before feminism, too. ;-) Older men want to date younger women because they find them more physically attractive. Women are valued for their attractiveness. Men are valued for security and stability. (And I say that as an "older" woman.)

And the real reason men today don't want to bother with courtship: Why buy a cow when so many other cows are giving away the milk for free?

Am I wrong here? Or, isn't that just the reality of it all?

40 posted on 11/16/2013 6:28:06 AM PST by Tired of Taxes
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