Posted on 11/16/2013 5:37:57 AM PST by ClaytonP
There are two things that many of this generation do not get.
One: that their virginity is not only precious, but very desirable by better elements of the opposite sex for marriage.
Second: a non-tattooed body will be a highly desired item.
I am not sure that is true. Women hold the handle to the sex spigot and I am amazed how many keep it turned off. Men need sex and lots of it, often. There is no better marital bonding device. It doesn’t cure everything but can make a mediocre marriage better.
The answer, for men - in general - in regards to these women is “To Hell with ‘em!”
But on a more “individual level” - if you find a rare one that is good and upright - then treat them right and you’ll have a blessing.
If she won’t go along the path to get married, for a long time - yes, that’s a warning sign and time to think about moving on.
ALSO, if she wants to get married too quickly - that’s a warning sign. Don’t move quickly with that one. Check things out more thoroughly.
It sounds like a lot of women are making noises with their mouths that they don’t want to be dominated and subjugated- while with their bodies they act out like they definitely are looking to be dominated and subjugated.
Many of them are definitely mixed up and definitely “shoot themselves in the foot” by being this way.
There’s no doubt that intimacy is important in a marriage. Continued spousal refusal of intimacy is grounds for divorce, and (imho) rightfully so. But, MOST couples probably fall into a rut once in a while.
However, I think Dobson’s comments are true for some marriages. I know a man who claims that he refused to sleep with his wife because she was over-the-top abusive. (And she really was - he’s not exaggerating.)
My own marriage was another example: My soon-to-be-ex is telling everyone that he had to cheat on me because I was refusing him. His latest story is that I denied him for years. His friends believe him. But, he’s lying... The truth is that he has MAJOR issues, and throughout the marriage I had reason not to trust him. But, we’d go through cycles with me trusting him enough to be close, and then discovering lies and not trusting him so pulling away, then trusting him again, and on and on. I was seriously ill for a year, and he played the part of the perfect husband. So, we actually were in the “I-trust-him-enough-to-be-close” part of the cycle when I discovered that he was secretly placing personal ads online the whole time I was sick.
A man may be attractive on the outside (my husband worked out every morning - 6’ tall - cobblestone abs - oh, and he advertised his physique in the personal ads I found). But when a man is complaining about and criticizing everything his wife does, lying to her constantly, driving up debt again and again, refusing to talk with his wife about important matters, treating other people better than his wife, and downloading porn onto his computer... well, it’s going to affect his marriage. I would’ve preferred to have been married to a lovable, trustworthy, average-looking guy with a potbelly. (Ladies, if that describes your husband, consider yourselves blessed.)
Your daughter has a good head on her shoulders. And here’s something else that struck me in reading your post: She trusts you, her parent, so much that she talked with you about what happened. Not many college students would do that. Your advice to her was spot on. Well done! :-)
But rejoice! There is some real silver in this cloud. Caesar has essentially killed caesars own perverted version of marriage. Oh well. It is still possible and I would argue very desirable to get married in the church, but to simply forego the marriage license. Thus getting all the blessings of sacramental marriage yet avoiding the disadvantages. Married in the eyes of God, but not in the eyes of the state.
So whose blessing do you care more about? Those of God, or those of dear leader?
I couldn't have said it better RKBA
That is what is important! Being Married in the eyes of G-d!
“Married in the eyes of God” isn’t a bad thing at all.
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You are so right Megan! (((HUGS!)))
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