Posted on 04/04/2012 11:36:32 PM PDT by thecodont
While most of the women I know wouldn’t stand for it, there’s been a lot of buzz around husbands opting not to wear their wedding bands.
According to some experts, people just don’t value the symbolism in a ring like they used to.
“I know I’m married, everybody else knows I’m married. I just don’t have no desire to wear it, at all.”
Richard Rhodes has been happily married for 15 years and says he hasn’t worn his ring since he tied the knot.
“I took it off right after the reception and I ain’t seen it since,” said Rhodes.
But the wedding ring is not just a symbol of love for married couples; it’s also an “off-limits” sign for singles.
Psychiatrist Gary Malone says that when a man decides not to wear his ring, it’s usually because he wants to “present himself as not married.” We didn’t need a psychiatrist to tell us that, but it helps.
“He gets all the payoff of presenting himself as single, while he actually gets the other payoff of having a wife at home,” Malone says.
(Excerpt) Read more at living.msn.com ...
Been married 13 years and have worn a ring since day one. I knew she wanted me to going in and was okay with it. I agree with the shrink, the only reason not to wear one is to be able to claim you’re single. The only reason you would want to do that is to cheat on your wife. I’m not going to do that. Part of the reason I was able to marry such a wonderful woman is her first husband cheated on her.
And YOU are a jerk.
Hum?
When my husband and I got married, almost 40 years now, people thought it was a really big deal he was wearing a wedding ring, even the newspaper announcement said “double ring ceremony”.
I know people that are machinists that do not wear rings because they say its dangerous.
Not sure its a big deal, except between the married couple.
If you are married, be married. If you aren't, be careful or celibate.
/johnny
The reason why people don’t see the ring as important, like they used to, is because they don’t see the marriage promises as important as they used to.
The only acceptable reason, in my mind, to remove the ring is either job or hobby related where injury could be the result or if you’re doing something like weight-training or martial arts or something similar.
At least in my books.
Conductivity and damage.
Its harder to get new bootie with a ring for sure and its just useless baggage anyway.
Been married 25 years. Don’t like rings, and don’t wear em.
I don’t need jewelry to remind me of my vows.
Quit the name calling. Makes you look classless.
A married man always has his tail between his legs.:)
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As far presenting oneself as single by not wearing the ring.. please quit projecting. I don't cheat but if I did the first thing I'd do is tell the bimbo I was married and that wasn't going to change. Who would want the hassle of not one but two lies? Plus letting the paramour think there might be a future would be stupid. I wear no jewelry.. safety. |
Ditching my wedding band would be the straightest path to the divorce court, in my house.
In my observation, people who don’t care one way or the other about their wedding bands, are also the type where the wife keeps her maiden name, or hyphenates her last name. Maybe she even goes by ‘Ms’ instead of Mrs. In other words, they’ve got a ‘progressive’ marriage.
Phhhhttt....
Exactly.
My father was an electrician and has “worn” his wedding ring on his keychain for 30+ years! ... a thick old gold band with a tiny diamond chip, tucked between his truck and house keys.
Hi Hon!
A lot of the guys who work on oil rigs don’t wear rings (mash one and lose a finger while someone is trying to cut the ring off). I’m an exception, but I’m outrageously careful about pinch points and electricity, too.
People don't see their vows as important because they don't see their elected officials taking their oaths of office as important.
Anything goes, now. Say what you need to, now, to get what you want, now.
-PJ
There are some occupations which make it dangerous to wear a ring or any type of jewelery. Electricians, machinist, any kind of manufacturing. They usually ask you to remove jewelery and put it in your pocket. Although when you take your vows you should wear your ring...
What a load of BS in the article!
I learned early on not to wear rings. At 18, I was in the catapults division on an aircraft carrier. I saw a shipmate fall and slip off of the deck onto the catwalk. His ring finger caught on the deck edge and ripped his finger off.
After my Navy service, I also worked in facilities where I ran lathes and it was definitely not safe to wear any rings.
I’m sure that a certain faction of males AND females stash their rings when out “catting” around, but the majority of males who don’t wear rings do so from lessons learned to avoid injuries.
If I had a wedding ring, I’d lose it. In fact, if I had the money I spent (or that others had spent) on every ring or watch that I have lost over the years, It’d be a pretty big chunk of change.
I just don’t like anything on my hands. I take them off without even thinking about it and walk away from them. I’m just as bad with lighters and combs. Managed to lose a 40,000 yen Dunhill lighter that a gal gave me some time back.
Boy was she upset!
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