Ditching my wedding band would be the straightest path to the divorce court, in my house.
In my observation, people who don’t care one way or the other about their wedding bands, are also the type where the wife keeps her maiden name, or hyphenates her last name. Maybe she even goes by ‘Ms’ instead of Mrs. In other words, they’ve got a ‘progressive’ marriage.
Phhhhttt....
My parents have been married for over 30 years and dont have rings. And no she doesnt use a madian name.
Rings are symbols, they are not the marriage themselves. Just ask some Hollywood couple that stayed married for less than a year after buying 20k worth of rings.
I hyphenated my maiden because it’s what I’ve created art under for 40-some years.
Nobody knows my work under his name.
I couldn’t possibly be more “retro”, otherwise.
If anything, I’ve observed the opposite: it is marriages where men get to unilaterally decide not to where a ring where they don’t where one—and those don’t tend to be maiden-name marriages.
Oh, and where men work in manual labor—as many FReepers attest to here. Those don’t tend to be maiden-name marriages either.
Finally, I question the premise of this article. Indeed, ‘double ring’ ceremonies used to be noted and I expect far more marriages have a double ring today to start with. Again, older marriages were less often maiden-name ones.
I've had my ring flattened...With my finger in it...
My wife stuck her hand into a machine and pulled it out, sans the diamond...She now wears a band...
Reality in the real world is perhaps a shock to some of you people...
I know numerous women in very loving, faithful and strong marriages who have kept their maiden name for various reasons. It's not that big of a deal.
Your premise is ridiculous.
Woman keep their maiden names for a variety of reason, like a professional degree in the maiden name.
In many cultures the husband takes the wife’s name.
Some cultures women would think it was silly to take the husband’s name.
In some areas of the word a new family name is given.
In my case I took my husband’s name because it was way more interesting than my ordinary maiden name.
My mother kept her maiden name because it was way more interesting that her married name would be.
I do find it interesting that you appear to attach “healthy” marriage to cultural symbols.