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The TRAUMA of Divorce and The Struggle of Pornography Addiction
Those Catholic Men ^ | Dr. Peter Kleponis

Posted on 08/30/2025 2:04:06 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege

As a young child, life was happy for Chris. He remembered good times with his parents and two siblings. Then when he was 11, his parents started arguing more. Some nights his father wouldn’t even come home. His father claimed he simply had to “work late.” But Chris felt there were bigger problems. Finally when he as 12 Chris’s parents told him that they were separating. They tried to explain how it would be better for the family because there would be less arguing, but Chris didn’t believe them. For him this was devastating news.

Because so many of Chris’s friends came from divorced homes he felt he simply had to accept his situation and make the best of it. His father moved out and within a year Chris’s parents were divorced. He saw his father on Wednesday evenings and every other weekend. Deep down Chris ached over the loss of his father. He felt deeply betrayed by his parents and abandoned by his father. Unfortunately, he felt he had no one to talk to. He believed he simply had to accept this new life. At the same time he began to view pornography more regularly. He had his own IPhone and tablet, which were not monitored. He would often come home to an empty house in the afternoon, go up to his room, and spend hours lost in porn. It was his ultimate escape. Soon it would consume his life making it extremely difficult for him to succeed in school or to have healthy relationships.

Chris’s story is similar to many I’ve heard…

(Excerpt) Read more at thosecatholicmen.com ...


TOPICS: Religion; Society
KEYWORDS: divorce; mentalhealth; mentalillness; pornography; prudesoffr; psychology; sexuality
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To: itsahoot

Brutal ...


21 posted on 08/30/2025 3:30:05 PM PDT by NorthMountain (... the right of the people to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed)
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To: Reddy

Says who?


22 posted on 08/30/2025 3:38:31 PM PDT by bankwalker (Feminists, like all Marxists, are ungrateful parasites.)
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To: bankwalker

Which statement was erroneous??


23 posted on 08/30/2025 3:40:31 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: Reddy

You didn’t answer my question.


24 posted on 08/30/2025 3:42:54 PM PDT by bankwalker (Feminists, like all Marxists, are ungrateful parasites.)
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To: bankwalker

Apparently, I said, “Yeah, it could happen.” So me?


25 posted on 08/30/2025 3:43:56 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: bankwalker

Which statement was erroneous?


26 posted on 08/30/2025 3:44:26 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: Reddy

I never said any of them were erroneous ... Just wondering about their source ...


27 posted on 08/30/2025 3:47:14 PM PDT by bankwalker (Feminists, like all Marxists, are ungrateful parasites.)
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To: DIRTYSECRET; bankwalker

So are you on a conservative website promoting the benefits of porn?

I may be misunderstanding.....


28 posted on 08/30/2025 3:48:09 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: Reddy

That’s absolutely right. Pornography is NOT just harmless fun and it’s foolhardy to think otherwise.


29 posted on 08/30/2025 3:51:14 PM PDT by No name given ( Anonymous is who you’ll know me as )
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To: Reddy

You are misunderstanding ...


30 posted on 08/30/2025 3:52:12 PM PDT by bankwalker (Feminists, like all Marxists, are ungrateful parasites.)
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To: CondoleezzaProtege

Porn is a problem if it consumes you like any supposed addiction which to me is self chosen lifestyle. Doesn’t matter what it is, porn, alcohol, drugs, food etc. you choose to let it get the best of you then it’s a self chosen problem.


31 posted on 08/30/2025 4:13:06 PM PDT by maddog55 (The only thing systemic in America is the left's hatred of it!)
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To: Racketeer

“Would there be so much trauma if men could freely love or have many wives?”

Didn’t work out too well for Solomon the wise.


32 posted on 08/30/2025 4:29:49 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: caver

“How about people have some morals and ethics?”

“Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” John Adams

It would be good if there was somehow, some way we could get rid of immoral and unethical people from this country.


33 posted on 08/30/2025 4:35:32 PM PDT by Reddy (BO stinks)
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To: CondoleezzaProtege

I saw my first porn movie a year or so back.... I was so young


34 posted on 08/30/2025 4:57:37 PM PDT by al baby (Whoopie Cushion Goldberg )
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To: maddog55

Free Republic touts this site as addicting


35 posted on 08/30/2025 5:00:23 PM PDT by al baby (Whoopie Cushion Goldberg )
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To: Reddy

They still talk about him still!!


36 posted on 08/30/2025 6:28:58 PM PDT by Racketeer
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To: CondoleezzaProtege

Men who are trapped in marriages that turn sexless, thats not a marriage anymore. The marriage vows have been broken. Marriage implies sex. If BOTH agree to take a break for awhile, ok. But when a spouse voluntarily stops having sex when they still can, and the other isn’t on board with tthat, that spouse has broken their vows. No man gets married to stop having sex.

Sex for men is the most societally acceptable intimate way they can act without appearing weak or wimpish or too feminine. Sex for men is like being listened to for women, or ankther equivalent is sex for men is like romance for women. No sex, well, I don’t feel like being the person you vent to every day for over an hour. No more sex, well I don’t feel like being romantic with you. No more sex, well I don’t feel like financially supporting you anymore. Its not like women don’t know how important it is for a man, especially a married husband. They know this and because its a top one for men, but usually lower on the list for them, they shame guys for it and try to make them out to be perverted. We have 25-50 times the testosterone of women and that makes us men with our normal male needs, and it also makes us the men women are attracted to, not low-T fem soyboys. Otherwise you’re just roommates and the guy roommate has all the legal responsibilities if the girl roomie wants to leave.


37 posted on 08/30/2025 6:45:18 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Secret Agent Man

I think we had this exchange in another thread. You make some valid points but the flip side is: women who DO initiate, who WANT to be intimate — if their husbands are bringing in porn addiction and other baggage into the marriage, it’s the WIVES who are being denied intimacy — physical, emotional, or otherwise!


38 posted on 08/30/2025 6:56:32 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege
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To: CondoleezzaProtege

* The Word in the heart and the Spirit knows pornea (Grk) is staged and counterfeit.

* In this Generation, men either never ages, or must become President, so to speak.

* In this Generation, women know not of love.

“The Harvest is the End of this Age” 📖

“And because anomial(lawlessness)(divorce), will increase, the love of many shall grow cold” 📖


39 posted on 08/30/2025 7:01:10 PM PDT by Varsity Flight ( "War by 🙏 the prophesies set before you." ) I Timothy 1:18. Nazarite warriors. 10.5.6.5 These Days)
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To: CondoleezzaProtege

If the guy has porn shes not meeting the needs. Or shes doing dead wife sex. Sex tapers down towards off quickly for most women, and most guys are not on board with it. Most men in marriages are not getting the amount of sex they would prefer to have. They didn’t sign up for celibacy or dead wife sex, which is horrible.


40 posted on 08/30/2025 7:01:27 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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