I think we had this exchange in another thread. You make some valid points but the flip side is: women who DO initiate, who WANT to be intimate — if their husbands are bringing in porn addiction and other baggage into the marriage, it’s the WIVES who are being denied intimacy — physical, emotional, or otherwise!
If the guy has porn shes not meeting the needs. Or shes doing dead wife sex. Sex tapers down towards off quickly for most women, and most guys are not on board with it. Most men in marriages are not getting the amount of sex they would prefer to have. They didn’t sign up for celibacy or dead wife sex, which is horrible.