My dad was not abusive to my mom. Never even heard him raise his voice to her. But he did something once that made her cry, which she almost never did, and I hated him for that. I was SO angry with him.
A friend recounts having his step dad beat his mom until my friend, as a teen, threatened to kill him in his sleep if he did it again.
THAT cannot be less damaging than divorce.
I am opposed to divorce, especially the divorce culture mentality we live in, but for a woman and children’s own safety, sometimes it is necessary.
Your parents shouldn't have involved you in their domestic disputes. You shouldn't have been allowed to witness that incident, whatever it was (I am assuming that it was some hurtful remark that your father made to your mother).
Marital disputes should be conducted behind closed doors.
Regards,
Yes. In my case, he was a serial adulterer, and he had the flaming nerve to put “LL” on the household budget. Mom said it meant “L**** may-she-rot-in-Hell Lewis”. She cost more than our groceries.