[alexander_busek]

My dad was not abusive to my mom. Never even heard him raise his voice to her. But he did something once that made her cry, which she almost never did, and I hated him for that. I was SO angry with him.

Your parents shouldn't have involved you in their domestic disputes. You shouldn't have been allowed to witness that incident, whatever it was (I am assuming that it was some hurtful remark that your father made to your mother).

Marital disputes should be conducted behind closed doors.

Regards,

[metmom]

Nope. Reflecting on it, I recall that it was a holiday. My dad had a temper and he would always be in a bad mood each holiday for some reason and would blow up over some little thing.

I remember my mom crying and saying that he was like that every holiday and ruined every holiday.

They never argued in front of us nor even where we could overhear them. That much I do remember. I mentioned once about how they didn’t argue or disagree and she said they disagreed plenty but not in front of us. Sometimes they’d go for car rides, just for something to do, they said, but now I think it was to discuss things they didn’t want us to overhear them fighting or arguing about.