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I'm a successful Black woman. So why aren't men into me?
Yahoo ^ | July 1, 2025 | Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes

Posted on 08/01/2025 2:57:53 AM PDT by C19fan

I’m a 42-year-old Black female, 195 pounds, 5’11”. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I have natural hair and a natural body type. I’m educated and have a good career. I own my home and car and play tennis, swim and do yoga. I travel and volunteer in my community.

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To: jerod

5’11”/195 is not fat. She’s a big girl, nothing wrong with that. I have a good friend who is 5’8”/180 who is very shapely and fit. This woman would not be too far off that. If the pounds are well placed, she could look like a real woman, not some gay man’s image of the perfect, hairless 12-year-old boy that fashion magazines would want us to think is normal for a woman.

I’m guessing she puts off an air of entitlement. It may be subtle, but I’ve seen it in a lot of professional women friends over the years. They arbitrarily ignore a good percentage of men because they deserve better, the men aren’t ‘good enough’, i.e. don’t meet their educational, financial or societal requirements. They only want college educated, BMW driving, A-listers who don’t get their hands dirty at work. No trade school, pickup driving, blue collar boys need apply. It’s usually not overt, but it’s there and men can sense it.

This woman makes a point of her success, education, community service etc. Talks about all the physical fitness activities she partakes in, but doesn’t say anything about who she is, just what she does. She’s writing a resume, not a personal ad. Is she outwardly political? That can be a plus or minus depending on who you are trying to meet. Why did she wait until her 40’s to start looking? Most good men are either taken by then or have been through a divorce and aren’t looking anymore by that age.

I’d suggest she find some activity she really enjoys and join a club or group that does that. She’ll meet some like-minded people. She may click with someone or may make friends with people who know people. Stay away from singles groups and mixers, they are horrible places to meet someone. Just relax. Live your life and let it come to you. Don’t be desperate people, can sense that. If it’s going to happen it will. I’ve known people who finally got lucky in their 50-60’s.


81 posted on 08/01/2025 7:28:40 AM PDT by redangus ( )
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To: C19fan

Check


82 posted on 08/01/2025 7:30:51 AM PDT by Vaduz
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To: sit-rep

5’11”/135 is your idea of beauty? You’ve bought into the gay man’s ideal of the perfect woman. A woman like that would look like a scarecrow. 165 would be thin but acceptable for someone of her height.


83 posted on 08/01/2025 7:31:51 AM PDT by redangus ( )
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To: C19fan

Let’s start with this. You’re 42. Men are attracted to younger women....by younger I mean under 30. You’re well past your sell by date. I say this and I haven’t even seen a pic of you yet.


84 posted on 08/01/2025 7:35:25 AM PDT by FLT-bird
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To: Kudsman

In high school I was undefeated in backseat coed wrestling.


85 posted on 08/01/2025 7:36:28 AM PDT by bray (It's not racist to be racist against races the DNC hates.)
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To: catnipman

She is 16 lbs above the range. On a government scale that many health care workers recognize as being inadequate and that is being replaced.

But you believe everything the government says.


86 posted on 08/01/2025 7:36:46 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: C19fan

Oh...and did I mention....You’re 195 pounds!!!! If you were 20 years younger and maybe 60 pounds lighter you might be in the ballpark.....


87 posted on 08/01/2025 7:36:57 AM PDT by FLT-bird
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To: mairdie

They are all doing well.

That makes me happy


88 posted on 08/01/2025 7:39:21 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: Jonty30
Every woman will have had at least one man who was interested in them and would have made a good husband, but women left them in their 20’s when they were at maximum options.

and then there's that. This absolutely 100%. A whole lot of women would be such much happier if they didn't spend their 20s turning down guys who would have been good choices for them....but they do.

89 posted on 08/01/2025 7:39:58 AM PDT by FLT-bird
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To: OldGoatCPO

Exactly. Many big beautiful women out there.

Men today want oriental bodies with big boobs..

Too much porn.


90 posted on 08/01/2025 7:41:47 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: redangus

Exactly


91 posted on 08/01/2025 7:42:54 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: Jonty30

Yes.


92 posted on 08/01/2025 7:45:16 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: mmichaels1970; lurk

As the adopted mother of 4 black biracial kids I assure you it matters. Always especially in the dating scene..


93 posted on 08/01/2025 7:48:44 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: dfwgator

Inside what?


94 posted on 08/01/2025 7:49:40 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: TheThirdRuffian

Probably depends on how much you’re lifting that day...lol


95 posted on 08/01/2025 7:51:18 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: dfwgator

“”””A man doesn’t want to date a “successful” woman, he wants to date their secretary.””””

Studies show that, men are drawn to helpful women, waitresses, secretaries, attendants of various fields and types.


96 posted on 08/01/2025 7:51:36 AM PDT by ansel12 ((NATO warrior under Reagan, and RA under Nixon, bemoaning the pro-Russians from Vietnam to Ukraine.))
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To: Apparatchik

at 195 and 5-11, a brisk walk will be OK.


97 posted on 08/01/2025 7:53:16 AM PDT by BigFreakinToad (All she is, is cackles in the wind.)
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To: jacknhoo

Like Jell-O on a roller coaster


98 posted on 08/01/2025 7:53:47 AM PDT by BigFreakinToad (All she is, is cackles in the wind.)
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To: OldGoatCPO

Great post


99 posted on 08/01/2025 7:53:52 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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To: OldGoatCPO

Great post


100 posted on 08/01/2025 7:53:52 AM PDT by Chickensoup
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