The woman in the video (which I have only now viewed - but I've seen countless others on the same topic) did, in fact, say very little except that she has raised her standards.
(Women like this generally are wisely very closed-mouth and try to reveal as little about the situation as possible. They want to provide a minimum of damning details.)
Most damning was the woman's statement, at 5:00, that it "doesn't matter, one way or the other, if she was at fault for the failure of her past relationships."
That one statement speaks volumes about her total lack of accountability! Her total lack of willingness to learn from her mistakes! Her utter childishness!
The woman in the video is, of course, at liberty to raise her "standards" sky-high, if she wants! She can flatly state that she will accept no one but a Nobel Prize winner, for all I care! (But by doing that, she is damning herself and her child to a life of loneliness!)
As for my having slightly widened the scope of the discussion to include the trite societal expectation that "good men" should "step up" and wife these single mothers: That is a legitimate adjacent topic. To insist that I do otherwise is ridiculous; it is tantamount to demanding that we discuss only one aspect of a major societal problem while ignoring all other aspects.
By announcing to the world that she has "raised her standards," she is implicitly expecting that the world satisfy her demands.
After having viewed the linked clip, I am surprised that this is the hill you have chosen to "die on."
You should choose your battles more judiciously. This tatted-up single mother boasting about her lack of accountability is certainly not the "poster child" for the "brave struggle" of repentant single mothers.
I defy any and all FReepers to view the Youtube clip in full, together with the commentary of Mr. Daniels, and not come to the same conclusion!
Regards,
P.S. Despite Mr. Daniels having said that he would put the link to the original, full-length video in the "description," I was unable to find the original video - can anyone help here?
I had forgotten to discuss the tattoos.
This is a controversial topic—but my view is that any woman with significant tattoos gets two points deducted from her SMV—so by my previous criteria she rates a solid zero.
(I am not going to go into a detailed analysis of why that is—though others can feel free to do so. It is enough to point out that she claims she is leaving her previous life behind but her tattoo is a reminder that it remains.)
The zero score means that means she has become invisible!
Try ignoring the man’s commentary and listen only to what she says. My opinion is based on what she alone said without the added commentary.
When she said her standards are high, she didn’t mention income or physical attributes. She said that, as a single mom, she must be serious when she dates. So, by ‘high standards,’ she means she does not mess around with players. That’s all.
When she said no one is necessarily at fault when a relationship doesn’t work, all she was saying is that sometimes relationships don’t work, that’s all.
You’re all flipping out over nothing.