Posted on 01/17/2025 4:10:03 PM PST by nickcarraway
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But new research is blowing the lid off the ugly truth — there’s almost always a top tot in the brood. And, sorry boys, it’s usually the girl. Parents may be more inclined to confer the “favorite child award” to daughters, or to children who are agreeable and conscientious, according to an American Psychological Association study published this week.
But crowning one kiddo the crème de la crème — whether overtly or covertly — could lead to family chaos, per the findings. “For decades, researchers have known that differential treatment from parents can have lasting consequences for children,” Alexander Jensen, lead author from Brigham Young University, explained in a release.
“This study helps us understand which children are more likely to be on the receiving end of favoritism,” he added, “which can be both positive and negative.”
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I don’t agree at all. Parents usually favor their most unattractive child.
Easy- in an Italian family it is the first born male, 99% of the time....that would be me!!!
They do? Not from what I’ve seen.
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There is no doubt I have a favorite child, it’s my first born daughter, that has no siblings.
My favorite child is the one who is least irritating me at any given moment. It changes continuously.
Not in my case ; )
> Easy- in an Italian family it is the first born male, 99% of the time....that would be me!!! <
In a Hungarian family, the first born male gets yelled at most of the time….that would be me.
But I’m not complaining. It toughened me up. I guess.
That sounds closest to reality. :)
You do put up great threads. Enjoying it muchly.
Oh- i was blamed for everything- but i was still the favorite of the family.
Among our five siblings, it’s the first-born male, the third child. (Not Italian.)
I don’t have a favorite, even though some of them are easier to get along with than others.
I love them all equally, but like different things about each one of them.
My mother said it was no secret that I was my dad’s favorite child but he loved my two sisters also. Its not my fault that I gravitated to the outdoors and was always out tramping the woods or fishing with my Dad. We had similar personalities and I just liked hanging out with my Dad. He was my hero.
I’m going to take a chance, and make some generalizations here.
I grew up in a very ethnic neighborhood. Everyone was either the child or the grandchild of immigrants from Europe.
The Italian families I knew were loud, but jovial. They were fun folks to be around. The Hungarians, eh not so much. I suspect that was because Hungary went through a lot more grief than Italy did. That carried over to the new country.
Details: My grandparents were all born in Hungary. It’s amazing what they went through to get here. And they were very loving. I enjoyed every minute of my time with them. But, yeah. They were rather pessimistic overall.
The compliant child is usually the favourite, but rewarding compliance is not what should be done imo.
I’d rather have a moral child, one who can stand against the world, than a compliant one. I’d rather have children stand up to me if it involves differences of opinion, but not immorality.
I could not have cared less whether my parents, especially my father, liked me.
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