Posted on 11/15/2024 10:51:24 AM PST by nickcarraway
here’s this woman on TikTok called Doormat Mom, and she’s stirring the pot with some pretty controversial stuff about her estranged kids. Now, she’s asking if it’s okay to leave them out of her will.
“Should I include, axe, or modify? What’s the deal with ungrateful adult children and inheritances?”
“What’s the kids’ side of the story?”
More than 1200 people answered her. Some viewers are like, “Heck yes, cut them out!” while others are saying, “What about the kids’ side of the story?” A few are even suggesting leaving money to the grandkids, but only if the parents don’t get a cent.
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“...she’s stirring the pot with some pretty controversial stuff”
I think it’s a lot more common that the author understands.
“I left my bike to my cat”
OK, I was on her side ‘till I saw that insanity.
Most likely has several screws loose......also, it never ceases to amaze me what personal things people will put out online. SMH
It’s called trolling for clicks
She looks like Norman Bates’ mom right before he killed her
My own grandfather wasn’t shiftless, but he was bypassed in the will and never owned the land he farmed, inherited directly by my grandmother and descended to their children. Her parents never approved of the marriage because he quit school in the 8th grade.
Could very well be a troll.
But for FR sake,
It’s your money do what you like with it in your will.
If they kids are treating you that bad maybe it is your fault but it doesn’t really matter.
If you and the kids are at odds, donate the money to charity on your death.
“OK, I was on her side ‘till I saw that insanity.”
You should have read the next sentence before post8ng ...
She can do what she wants, but why tell everyone?
Guess she wants attention
Who shares their personal issues and inheritance dilemmas online with strangers? Talk to a therapist for your guilt and a tax lawyer about your will, and then shut up about it. Taking stuff like this online is attention seeking and shallow, frankly.
https://legal-info.lawyers.com/trusts-estates/wills-probate/leaving-someone-out-of-your-will.html
Disinheriting Children
In most states, your children are not entitled to any of your property—you can leave them nothing. However, there are a few exceptions. For example, in Louisiana, children under 24, as well as some children with disabilities, have the right to one-quarter to one-half of a parent’s estate. (Louisiana Civil Code 1493.). And in Florida, children have a right to inherit a parent’s residence. (Florida Statutes 732.401.) If you don’t provide for these children in your estate plan to the extent that they’re entitled, they can petition the court to get what the law says they should have. But for the most part, a parent can leave a child out of a will.
Reasons to Disinherit a Child
Those who choose to disinherit a child might not always be driven by negative relationships. While being estranged from your child might certainly be reason to disinherit them, you might also do so in other situations such as:
your child (or one of your children) is well-off, and doesn’t need additional support
you already gave sufficient financial support to your child during your lifetime
you want to provide for a disabled child and leave nothing to your healthy children who are able to support themselves, or
you believe that your children should pull themselves up by the bootstraps.
For example, if you have three children, and financially supported one of them significantly more than the other two, you might decide to leave that one child little or nothing in your will.
State Your Intention to Disinherit a Child
If you do decide to disinherit your children, make it clear. In most states, children who are not specifically mentioned in a will can ask for a portion of their parents’ estates. These laws aim to protect children who are accidentally left off a will—for example, to provide for a daughter who was not yet born when her father made his will and was therefore not named to receive any property. Because of these laws, it is not enough to simply omit the child who you want to disinherit. Instead, state your intention clearly in your will. If you don’t, those omitted children will likely be able to get some of your property, and that property will be taken out of the gifts you made to other beneficiaries.
In your will, you don’t have to say why you want to disinherit your child (except perhaps in Louisiana, where you must have a legally acceptable reason to disinherit). Rather, you could just say, ”I leave nothing to my son, Robert Johnson,” or you could list the names of all of your children, and then include a statement like, “If I do not leave property in this will to any of my children named above, my failure to do so is intentional.”
Some people also find it useful to leave a letter to survivors—completely separate from the will—that states why they are disinheriting a child. Doing this gives you an opportunity to explain why you want to disinherit, and it also may reduce conflict by clarifying your reasoning. Just be sure not to contradict what you’ve written in your will.
Finally, if you anticipate any conflicts about your estate, it’s best to get help with your estate plan from an experienced attorney. A good lawyer can make sure that your will is crafted to withstand the challenges of your specific situation.
interesting.
What Are Your Options If You Were Disinherited?
Or you might be wondering about disinheritance from the flip side of the coin. If you were the one disinherited, you might have a few options:
If you are a disinherited spouse, your state’s laws might protect you (see above).
If you are a disinherited child, you’re likely out of luck, except in a few narrow situations (see above), or if you can make the case that you were accidentally left off the will.
You might also be able to challenge a will on a few other legal grounds, such as that the will maker was not of sound mind. But it’s very hard to successfully contest a will. Also beware that if the will contains a no-contest clause, you might risk losing any inheritance left to you if you do challenge the will.
She was 5 years old at the time......
Why? Why do people run to Social Media sites to air their dirty laundry?
I call it the Jerry Springer Complex. A “Look at me/Attention Whore” need to be pitied.
There are a TON of social media accounts belonging to butthurt Boomer parents whose adult children have finally decided to stop tolerating their entitled bull, especially when childhood abuse/neglect was involved and those parents refuse to take any accountability (it’s ALWAYS someone else’s fault...ALWAYS).
It’s nice if parents want to leave an inheritance for their children, but they don’t have to, and in cases where the parents were genuinely awful, their kids probably don’t want their money/assets.
Just my little old option, but I think *everyone* should have the Long Haired Country Boy mantra...”I ain’t askin’ nobody for nothin’, if I can’t get it on my own”.
Hey, LOOK AT MEEEEEEEEE
Same with the millennial “I’m a victim”/I need a whaaambulance stories.
Works both ways, I guess.
Heard somewhere that if you want to leave your children out of your will then you have to name them in the will and specifically say for each one that they are to receive nothing from your estate. Or something like that.
I hope that my parents enjoy every bit of the fruit of their labors and I dont feel like I am entitled to anything of theirs. It theirs, not mine. That simple. I know they see things differently and have talked about “leaving it all to the kids”. But, no...I personally would like them to enjoy it all to the very last cent. I Love you Mom and Dad. Best parents EVER!
I wouldn’t know. I’m GenX! ;P
Seriously though, I *do* generally think castigating entire generations is a bit silly and unwarranted most of the time.
Social media gives everyone a LOOK AT ME platform, and the airing of family grievances seems to get a whole lot of clicks right now.
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