Posted on 02/04/2024 1:54:47 PM PST by CMS
I recently lost my wife of 16 years to cardiac failure. Her loss has been devastating. We had a fight before we went to bed and our last words were not pleasant. When the alarm went off and I rolled over and saw her laying there eyes open and motionless, I knew I lost her. I'd give ANYTHING to tell her that I 'm sorry for the fight and to tell her that I love her one more time.
I called 911 and everyone showed up, and I was treated like a criminal that potentially murdered her for 3 hours until the coroner arrived and said it was cardiac failure. After that was said everyone's demeanor towards me changed and they became more sympathetic.
She always loved the beach and we went every chance we got. One of her happiest memories was when we were on a beach at Montego Bay Jamacia
I went with a beach theme for her urn, so now I feel she's forever at the beach
They did you wrong. They may have misinterpreted your state of shock. I would want an apology from them. Go up the chain as you can until you get it.
I do have one piece of advice, because I know how traumatic it can be to lose a loved one. Be sure to live a life, because should the day come when you are reunited, she will want to hear everything you did when she was gone. It would probably kill her if she learned that her death took you with her as well.
I had that experience with somebody. His brother died saving lives and he effectively died when his brother died. I told him that.
She knows.
That’s very lovely. Sorry you had such a sad experience!
I’m very sorry for your loss.
It’s hard enough losing someone close that you love. I’m sorry you had to be treated like a guilty subject.
I understand that feeling of regret when there’s no second chance to make it different. Nothing worse!! I have no words to describe how traumatic that feeling is.
I’m sorry for your pain.
I was already suffering from depression before, this took it to a new level.
It's hard to move on. And yes part of me did die with her, it's just so hard to push forward
One fight is but the blink of a eye in context of your years together. Forgive yourself and remember the good times.
Everything you do, until you meet again, will be with an eye of being able to share it.
Keep a diary and fill that diary with a bunch of activities, pictures and everything. Just to remind yourself of what you’ll be able to share with her. If you take a pottery class, for example, you can keep pictures of all the vases so you can show her.
That kind of stuff.
That’s a beautiful eulogy. Life, such a fleeting thing. Before we know what we’re even doing, it’s over and it’s too late to change it. God knows this, and has mercy on us because of it. And being with God now, she also knows it.
God bless you and keep you.
Very sad indeed. I pray that God heals your heart and replaces it with more love!
what a lovely testimony of love.
(and a timely warning to those of us fortunate enough to have our pearls beyond price still with us.
may God meet you and yours with His every Comfort.
The two of you were blessed. May God comfort you.
Sure your wife knows you love her and miss her.
Your memorial for her is beautiful.
Very sorry for your loss.
You shared something special, which is a treasure.
Thank you for your service. God bless you.
She knows how you felt and would want you at peace.
It’s very nice.
You did good. I’m trying to think if I’ve argued with you or anything recently. I hope I did. Hang in there buddy. That had to be tough also, people acting like it was your fault.
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