Posted on 02/10/2023 10:37:06 PM PST by Morgana
A New Jersey restaurant has sparked furious debate after revealing it was banning children under the age of 10 from dining in.
Italian restaurant Nettie's, located in Tinton Falls, New Jersey, caused a stir on social media after making the announcement.
In a Facebook post, a staff member said the ban would begin March 8, claiming its decision was due to rowdy children causing safety issues during peak dining times.
The new policy comes after another woman called for 'adults only' suburbs to have 'peace and quiet' without any disturbances from children.
Despite the growing calls for more strict no-kids rules to be enacted, the restaurant's announcement has come under fierce criticism from many parents, triggering heated discussion about the controversial policy.
'It's been extremely challenging to accommodate children at Nettie's. Between noise levels, lack of space for high chairs, cleaning up crazy messes, and the liability of kids running around the restaurant, we have decided that it’s time to take control of the situation,' the post read.
'This wasn't a decision that was made lightly, but some recent events have pushed us to implement this new policy. As of March 8, the day we return from our winter break, we will no longer allow children under 10 to dine in the restaurant.
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They think it's adorable. The kids run wild in restaurants, ruining everyone else's dinner ear-splitting shrieks. The parents just smile proudly when other diners glare at them. They are the same with their dogs, letting them crap in your yard, run off leash against the law, etc... "Aww! Isn't he cute?"
“..same with their dogs..”
Agree +1 on the kids part, +1000 on the dogs part.
True. Now that I think of it we weren’t rowdy at all when out at (rarely) at restaurants like Ponderosa. Just wasn’t done... but it was a long time ago.
For me, it was, “You already have one whipping coming. Do you want to try for two?”
That's kinda pricey for 1960, I'd say.
That must have been a deluxe tuna sub!
Regards,
My children have been going to restaurants once a week since they were in high chairs.
When they were young, we took them to low budget, kid friendly places. We taught them proper table manners, etiquette, and treating servers with respect.
We also introduced them to opera and live theater through the children’s opera programs and community theater matinee productions. I made it a point to discuss proper behavior on the way to both venues and on the way home we would talk about the production, their favorite parts, what they disliked, etc. Invariably, they would remark on how poorly behaved the other children were. I made sure to give them lots of praise on how well they behaved and how proud I was of them.
As they got older (age ranges of 10, 8, and 4), we started taking them to upscale restaurants and dressed finely for Michelin Star meals and an evening at the opera or theater. They were on their best behavior automatically because I raised them that way.
I have never been embarrassed by my children. They knew better than to act like heathens.
They still enjoy going out to eat, shows, opera, and the theater.
Yes, they are.
Manners, once a requirement for a civilized society, are rarely taught in the home anymore.
“Manners, once a requirement for a civilized society, are rarely taught in the home anymore”
There’s this thing going on in families where the parents feel that the children should be self-parenting themselves and that’s the problem. Parents aren’t parents anymore! They want to be buddies with their curtain climbers and it just doesn’t work out.
If thats what they are going for, they need to put the ban to at least age 21. Vast vast majority of parents do zero effective discipline to their kids.
Today’s parents allow children to leave the table before a meal is finished. I had this experience with 2 nephews some years ago, who were given permission by their parents to run out of the restaurant halfway through the meal. My oldest son was about to follow until I interceded. After a period of silence, it was agreed that all would remain inside until the meal was over.
The restaurant could implement a cash deposit system for children: $50 non-refunded if one’s children make a big mess, get rowdy or run around. It would be almost impossible to enforce.
The parents need to get over their sense of entitlement.
“One of the worst dining experiences I’ve had involved a kid at the adjacent table throwing a tantrum and crying. I don’t mind kids in restaurants but if the parents aren’t going to control their kids then it ruins it for the rest of the customers.
Same with movie theaters.”
It’s getting that way in church too! We have a cry room for loud babies and toddlers but the parents feel they are above that. Let their precious darlings scream and cry all through the service. Can’t hear the Priest because there are always certain kids who have to belt it out like opera singers.
When you complain to them they quote the bible verse about Jesus said let the children come unto me. well the bible also said something about training a child which they don’t do.
15 years ago I found myself taking care of a 5 year old Vietnamese immigrant girl whose dad(probably not father- he thought she was 3) had run off her mother after fetching her to America. Dad was a very strong 70 year old whose only way to deal with small children was to hit and to yell. I judged him to be physically dangerous to Châu. He was strong but not fast and she would outrun him in the apartment and the yard till he called me and asked for help. I got her signed up for kindergarten and went around with him to translate at government offices. I made a point of staying with them in the daytime and taking them out to a little Chinese Takeout with tables a couple of times a week. Whenever she would do something unacceptable at the table I leaned over to her and said quietly, “Không tốt” - ‘not good.’ She never did that thing again. After a few such meals she was quite ready to go to an upscale restaurant. Châu came to look to me as a tutor for how to get along in this new society. Eventually I succeeded in reuniting her with her mother and they live at the other end of the country. Dad died of a heart attack a couple of years later while making love with yet another wife he went back to Việt Nam for. I told him when he went that he did NOT need the Viagra he insisted on as he had a weak heart.
Slow clap. Bravo. My parents raised me that way as well.
Near our table was a group of two families whose four kids were literally running around the restaurant playing tag with the parents not doing a damn thing about it.
Finally I had enough and stood up and yelled at the kids to shut up and go sit down. My outburst surprised me as much as it did the kids but they went back to their tables and sat down then the families immediately got up and left.
Don't know if what I did was right or wrong but I was really pissed at their behavior and had to say something.
The trouble spots are those dining places called diners, where the prices are now as high as in restaurants but some people still consider them playgrounds for their kids.
I watched two kids the other day run from the stools at the counter over to their mothers’ table and back again, over and over, through my entire dinner. They sat at every empty stool at the counter in succession screaming and laughing. Nobody said a word.
As a person with far more children than average, I support businesses’ making decisions based on their own circumstances. If I wanted their food, I would just get takeout.
Take your kids to MacDonald’s not a nice restaurant.
Probably not that many customers taking under 10s to the restaurant in the first place so it really won’t impact the business.
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