Posted on 08/15/2022 5:48:20 PM PDT by C19fan
Men are lonelier than ever as they struggle to meet the higher dating standards of modern women, according to a psychologist.
American psychologist Greg Matos wrote in a recent Psychology Today article that the current state of young and middle-aged men's love lives shows they need to 'address a skills deficit'.
He said: 'I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values'.
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therefor can draw the interest of twentysomething women who haven’t ruined themselves.
[[Not seeing 20s females interested in settling]]
That’s a big problem in this society. Women thinking their 20s will last forever. Then they arrive into their 30s and discover the men who are interested in marriage have already been taken, and the ones left are only willing to date them for no-strings sex.
Women are at their peak ability to attract a good man in their early 20s, and most waste that period partying with men who (while attractive and witty) have no interest in marrying them.
I, too, was the “nice guy,” who tried to not offend and such.
I guess I lost my care about always not offending. I am polite, but I know how to put others in their place and force them to admit they are wrong in front of others, of course, when they are actually wrong.
I very much push boundaries, in a healthy way, if the occasion calls for it. I get a lot of enjoyment from that, yet, I have some liberals that admire how I do these things, and they trust me. I am generally transparent and I’m willing to ask the hard questions and not be too afraid of being embarrassed for having asked a stupid question.
Correct. And the minute I'm sitting there with my headphones on listening to music and a gal I'm dating sits down next to me, stares for a few minutes, taps my shoulder and asks "So...what are you thinking about?" I say "I'm thinking I'd like a sammich." If none is forthcoming then the fun is done and she needs to go.
They’ve been lied to.
They will be in a rude awakening.
I read the paragraph of this story and thought, “Here come the men who chose unwisely and ‘got screwed’ by their women.”
This will be fun to follow.
Close to 40 years with my wife now.
[[So how can more men than women be single?]]
A woman counts herself as non-single if she has a guy who takes her out on a regular basis.
It doesn’t matter if he has several other women in his rotation.
The top 10% of guys have multiple woman wanting to go with him. The bottom 50% see things sparse.
There may also be some self-selecting of truth going on. More men are willing to admit to being single than women are.
Also, more men may not consider themselves attached if they are just having casual sex.
The children were never taught to protect their fertility marry or reproduce. Those are skills that traditional values teach.
My daughter’s were all married, living in their own home, with at least two children by 30. They all have careers they can use. The all know how to manage a home cook from scratch.
These skills were taught . Keep your children away from all screens government schools and worldly people.
In my view, until the children are naturally separating from the mother which happens between 6 to 9 years of age, the mothers primary job is her children.
Once the child starts separating, they should be spending a lot of time with the father so the father can train them to face the world and win.
It doesn’t mean the wife and mother cannot start training for a career of interest during this period. It just shouldn’t be her primary focus during this time.
A crucial difference between men and women:
Men would rather go out with an average looking woman than stay home. Women would rather stay home than go out with a man who doesn't meet her standard of desirability.
The net result is that while men might like LOOKING at very attractive women, they are more likely to face reality about who they can actually get.
I think a quality my wife likes most in me, is that whatever bad thing happens, I’ll say, “Don’t worry about it, I’ll deal with it”. And I do.
Women like the security of having a man who will deal with whatever the world decides to throw.
That’s admirable. Your wife is a lucky and blessed woman.
Otherwise, she looks fine. Not -itchy.
The bad-boy bums are not going to marry them anyway.
The single moms want the good guys for husbands. The ones they scorned and spurned when they were partying with the bad boys. But increasing numbers of good guys want nothing to do with raising another man's spawn, especially since family courts would likely hit them for child support upon breakup (since the bum likely has no assets to garnish anyway), and are looking for young women without baggage.
Especially when they grow in a peculiar way.
Translation; metrosexuals.
“good guys want nothing to do with raising another man’s spawn”
They are smart men. Of course, every person is different and every situation is different. The reason why a woman is raising a child alone could be absolutely not her fault. Or, it could be.
You said, that “good guys want nothing to do with raising another man’s spawn”.
That goes for good women, too. I have no children, and I had a rule that I’d NEVER date a man with children. Marriage is hard enough without adding the “baggage” and that giant family dynamic to the mix.
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