“His doctor’s office has warned he may need assisted living very soon. Um, that might kill him.”
My husbands BIL reluctantly went into the retirement home about 3 yrs ago at 93 because his daughter who lives in Texas told him she would feel better. She told me they wouldn’t sell his house for at least a year so if he couldn’t stand living there he could go back home. He LOVED it there because he is such a talker and knows no stranger. He had lots of people to talk with there and things to do. After he recently fell out of his bed and cracked his hip he was going to go back but this time to the assisted living part. Then he fell again while in the re-hab and now they don’t expect him to live much longer so re-hab is keeping him there. :-(
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So sorry about your BIL.
I’m glad he enjoyed his retirement home stay, before his falls.
Just so sad that it happened, in the first place (falling).
Prayers 🙏🏻
My neighbor fell a couple of years ago and I found her and called the police, who called the fire department, who called the ambulance. She was very adamant though. She DID NOT AT ALL want to go to the hospital, although she could not stand and definitely could not walk. I talked her into going and stayed with her for a couple of hours until her son could arrive.
She had told me previously that she did not want to leave her home EVER. She wanted to die there.
She has never returned home and is now living in an assisted living place near her sons.
Just yesterday, though, one son was down and was fixing things about the house to prep it for his son. That young son, the lady’s grandson, will live there while he attend the university. They reassured me that it was the right thing for the lady to go to the hospital and she is happier now and can interact with a lot of people and her family much more easily.
I am willing to support my dad in whatever he wishes to do. If he wants to stay home and something happens and help doesn’t arrive, I will not repine his decision. He would have died (this hasn’t happened yet) where and how he wishes.