Posted on 02/17/2020 1:27:13 PM PST by Jewbacca
Looking for some advice dealing with a horrid little kid.
One of my younger daughters attends a non-Jewish secular STEM school in the USA. (It is about 1/4 Jewish.) She is a freshman. Very, very smart -- as in 1460 PSAT freshman smart, all high As, multilingual. GREAT athlete.
With considerable reluctance, I allowed her to participate in a program where young ladies are "presented" in society. She looked lovely and frum.
There is a young boy that has caused a bit of a trouble for her over the years. He's smart, father a bird colonel in the USAF, mother a doctor. He is not Jewish. I have a professional relationship with the father.
Said boy, about a year ago, thought it funny to draw swastikas on my daughter's school book. We blew it off.
Recently, at the above-mentioned social function, in the limo (with about 20 kids), he plugged in a rap song about how fun it is to kill Jews. (The other boys, all non-Jewish in the vehicle, strongly objected and made him turn it off.)
Mrs. Jewbacca is of the mind to blow this off and simply avoid the little s--t.
After my initial desire to beat the crap out of a 15 year old boy passed, I am left with a quandary.
Do I say anything? Specifically, do I speak to the father? If so, what do I say? I am of mixed minds, as I presume they learn this stuff at home. But his father (who very much knows I am Israeli) has never been anything but professional. And I would want to know if my kid was being a stupid s--t.
And the motive may not be antisemitism, in that, objectively speaking, my daughter is pretty (and smarter) and the kid is a bit of a fat troll.
Sounds like the kid could use a trip to the Holocaust museum in Washington D.C. Though I don’t know if that would help.
Saplings become big trees...and bigger NAZIs. The peer pressure might straighten fat troll out for now.
Is the dad a boss of yours.? Or how many much money will you loose if the dad chooses to freeze you out?
Id let it go because the kid pry has a crush on your daughter and is just being stupid. But Id tell your daughter to steer clear of the kid as much as possible. Im glad her classmates took care of the situation in the limo. Its good to know she has support there.
Far more constructive of an idea than I originally had.
Also, considerably more legal.
Speak to the boy’s father in private, man to man and lay it out, point by point. He may be totally unaware of the situation...........
I hate Illinois Nazis.
Speak to the father - again. Keep a log of when, where these incidents occur.
None, I’m an IDF officer (reserve) but work for a defense contractor.
My main job is training USAF pilots. His dad is some sort of REMF. Probably approves invoices, though.
Would definitely talk with the Father, hopefully he is receptive and hopefully this is the son acting on his own
Unacceptable. Yes, I would speak to someone
I am of Jewish background myself, and _we_ have a problem with the left-wing Jews who are _very_ obnoxious, _very_ condescending, and _very_ much in the public eye.
It is easy to understand why a young person could over-generalize and assume _all_ Jews are like that.
The anti-dote has to be one-on-one.
You and your daughter need to lead by example (_no_ lecturing) in all that you do every day.
That means treating everyone with respect, listening to everyone, talking down to no-one.
That is far more important than scoring any debating points imho.
If he is a good father, you can let him know that his son is playing with fire that eventually could get him kicked out of school. He would be grateful, and he would make sure his son does not retaliate.
But he might not be a good father.
I am no expert, but in my opinion, it would be ideal to find a way to have a conversation where you can bring this up without seeming to make a big deal about it.
I agree - just the facts, and "I thought you'd want to know." Maybe even explicitly disavow judgment: "I don't presume to know where this behavior is coming from."
Seems like the other boys got his number. Give them a chance before you commit yourself to trouble. Just my opinion.
90% chance the kid is just being stupid like most teenage boys.
At 15 I would go to the father, tell him what happened and ask him to allow you to speak to the boy.
I cannot imagine a bird colonel wants his commander to find he is raising a Nazi. Especially through a letter to the editor in the local paper.
Spell out for his father what happened, without commentary, and suggest that he discuss it with his son, as you will discuss it with your daughter.
“The other boys, all non-Jewish in the vehicle, strongly objected and made him turn it off.”
Sounds like the kids took care of it.
Kid should be shunned and ostracized by the other kids as in “get out of here, loser freak.”
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