Posted on 12/03/2018 5:50:00 PM PST by proud American in Canada
Hi everyone. I need a bit of help. I've had a serious drinking problem for a very long time. My husband doesn't drink. But he does hit me. I guess he feels entitled to since I'm the one who causes all the problems apparently. I'm up in bed I haven't had any food for dinner. I need doesn't even want me to come down he shakes me he hits me; I'm supposed to go to rehab on Wednesday for 3 months. Not really looking forward to it. I just wondered if anyone had any advice I'm really at a loss here I just want to move back to the States my son is 23 he lives here without paying anything. Our daughter lives in Montreal and just going to school. And apparently I'm supposed to pay everything from what my dad left when he died. I could tell you one thing... If my father were alive you would kick my husband a**.
I spent thousands of US Dollars going to see him 5 * when he was dying I wish everyday that I could call him. I wanted to just send a card. To GW. It doesn't matter how old your parent is, it's still very tough.
Anyway I need advice please? I would really appreciate it I know a lot of women have gone through this and I just want to know how you survived
By the way I don't want to post and run but I'm not sure what's going to happen. I promise to respond to everyone as soon as I can thank you very much in advance
We’re you drinking when you posted this?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Make the best at rehab and beat this demon first.
Before you do anything, you’d better go cold turkey and stop drinking. Not a damn thing is going to get better or be solved until you do that first.
You acknowledge your alcoholism, but then at the same time you point your fingers. I suspect that possibly you are being hit as you provoke your husband and act irrationally and violent with him. Many men are accused of physical violence when their wives go bat shit crazy and flail away...the man trying to restrain the out of control woman is then the “abuser”.
Anyways, STOP drinking or die.
Oh, and pray to God and beg him for help and guidance. But the first step is YOU.
Get your money and get out. Let hubby & son fend for themselves. You need to look after yourself, and that includes getting yourself sober. I know it is easier said then done. Some space between you, your husband and son should help though.
Just think that Al Baby dude was sober when he wrote that silly Bebber Tread
Prayers for you.
My brother went through re-hab. It was the start of a greatly improved life, and a better marriage. I hope the same for you. I will pray.
Cold turkey is a good way to die better get medical help
And you were a hell of a good sport for all the ribbing that took place. I still respect that from you.
Detox yourself and you will feel so much better. Your husband will love you for that.
Call the police and get some enforced separation until you get to rehab. Your drinking does NOT give him a free pass to abuse you. Please accept that you are a child of God and, with His help, you will be free. I will pray for you tonight.
Did rehab for a year back in 2001 it gave me a life beyond my wildest dreams
Throw out all the booze. Anything with Alcohol in it you need to quit using. Use non-alcoholic stuff, ect.
If you aren’t going to Church, start. Now. Also, Pray every day. Make the time for it. Invite your husband to pray with you.
Don’t ever buy alcohol again. Instead, make plans for rental movie night, or some other entertainment activity that you plan for but don’t go drinking. Your friends need to support you in giving up booze.
Don’t ever try anything with alcohol in it again. If your husband beats you again, call the cops.
If He is beating you, you may have to consider more drastic actions. It is not OK for a husband to hit his spouse in anger or for the wife to hit her husband in anger.
First the drinking - has got to stop. Try AA - I went that route and have been sober 25 years. It could work for you, too.
You should not be hit - for ANY reason. Maybe a girl-friend's house or a women's shelter - just for some short-term relief (and safety).
Ever think about church? A good, Bible-based one might provide some help, too.
In the mean-time, you need prayer - lots of it. I'll be praying for you, and you might try it yourself - even if you don't believe. Try it anyway.
Keep us up on how it's going. As long as you're alive, you've got a chance.
God help and keep you.
You are correct in this. I should have also included getting medical help to detox. Cold Turkey can be fatal.
Please see a Teen Challenge (it’s for adults) near you.
https://www.teenchallenge.ca/contact-us/centre-locations
Deal with the alcohol issue first before you make any other major decisions. In addition to professional rehab therapy work on your spiritual condition. God wants to help you if you’ll let him. My prayers are with you.
“We’re” you?
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