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57 Things I Need You to Stop Doing to the Women You Work With
Esquire ^ | October 16, 2017 | Kaitlin Menza

Posted on 10/18/2017 3:45:40 AM PDT by C19fan

A female friend of mine went on a foreign business trip early in her career with two colleagues who were both male, married, and senior to her at the company. After dinner with a client, hours after she had retired to her room, around 1 a.m., one of her coworkers knocked on her hotel door and asked if she would come out for a drink. She declined. After another hour, around 2 a.m., the other coworker knocked on her door. When she opened it a crack, he tried to push his way into her room. She fought him off. All three still work together.

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TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: men; women
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To: trebb
57 items? My whole repertoire for interacting with women can’t have more than 8 or 9 items to it that covers the whole gamut of treating them or ignoring them - and I’m 65....everything is so dang complicated these days.....


If I had done 57 things to a woman I worked with, I would have been in trouble with someone. Yep, 8 or 9 is enough.

57 things, and it is all about them, not the task at hand.

Too ridiculous to read.

41 posted on 10/18/2017 5:00:39 AM PDT by The_Media_never_lie
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To: C19fan

Seems to me, it might be easier to only hire straight men.


42 posted on 10/18/2017 5:06:34 AM PDT by gubamyster
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To: a fool in paradise

I think the KEY thing the man-hater who wrote that is missing is... “intention”

Many of those things she listed are perfectly ok, IF you have no intention of trying to pick them up, have sex with them, ect.

THAT is what makes it creepy.

The second your INTENTION changes, how those actions are received changes.


43 posted on 10/18/2017 5:06:35 AM PDT by TexasFreeper2009
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To: C19fan

Told our receptionist/dispatcher she didn’t need to attend a safety meeting the other day at which we were giving out coats to each employee, I’d bring hers to her after because no one would pay attention to me and what I had to say if she were there. 29 men and 1 other woman in meeting. I’m fairly certain after reading this that I harassed her.


44 posted on 10/18/2017 5:07:57 AM PDT by John W (Trump/Pence 2020)
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To: metmom
I remember back in the 80's, telling women to smile was a big thing. I was in the Navy, and I couldn't walk down the passageway without a man barking "Smile!" at me as he passed. And usually, they weren't smiling, but we were expected to grin like chimps at every man who glanced at us.

The one I'll always remember was the guy who told me to smile just after I'd left the Chaplain's office. I'd just been notified that my father had died unexpectedly, and I was rather in shock, and this guy told me to smile. I told him about my father and he scampered away, mortified. I do hope that he, at least, never again ordered a complete stranger to smile at him.

45 posted on 10/18/2017 5:09:39 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady
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To: C19fan
All three still work together.

Bullshit. If true, the woman is a dumb bitch.

BTW, Reason #58; the author can blow me.

46 posted on 10/18/2017 5:14:34 AM PDT by USS Alaska (Kill all mooselimb, terrorist savages, with extreme prejudice! Deus Vult!)
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To: C19fan

I work with a lot of women, ladies and females. Most all are ESL peoples..
I’ve never had any complaints of inappropriate behavior because I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut and look the other way,, and that drives them crazy when you dont make eye contact..


47 posted on 10/18/2017 5:17:16 AM PDT by ßuddaßudd (>> M A G A << "What the hell kind of country is this if I can only hate a man if he's white?")
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To: C19fan

The article is basically “don’t interact with women, period.”


48 posted on 10/18/2017 5:17:47 AM PDT by cincinnati65
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To: A_perfect_lady

God that must have been awful for you!
The “smile” guy probably did not give it a second thought.


49 posted on 10/18/2017 5:18:32 AM PDT by ronniesgal (still winning !!)
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To: rbg81

I noticed that, too. Funny, as that line coming from a woman to a man, would violate all of the above rules for men talking to women.


50 posted on 10/18/2017 5:19:14 AM PDT by cincinnati65
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To: A_perfect_lady

Yeah
This and more


51 posted on 10/18/2017 5:20:19 AM PDT by silverleaf (A man who kneels for the national anthem doesn't stand for much of anything)
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To: Tax-chick

Yes, I know. Allow me some IT-Dilbert-style humor.


52 posted on 10/18/2017 5:21:07 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Caipirabob
How about just act like a conservative. I met my wife at work and darn if I didn’t have to pursue her every day to finally catch her in a place where I could ask her out. Over 20 something years ago.

Same here, over 30 years ago. Work is where you have the most chances to meet people, and also get an idea of what kind of people they are. All this "sexual harassment" hyper-sensitivity is making men too hesitant to ask out female co-workers.

53 posted on 10/18/2017 5:24:31 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (Big governent is attractive to those who think that THEY will be in control of it.)
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To: usmom

I’d hit it.


54 posted on 10/18/2017 5:24:53 AM PDT by Lazamataz (The "news" networks and papers are bitter, dangerous enemies of the American people.)
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To: metmom

Sorry, metmom, but there is no way this applies:

“Don’t make any comment to women about their appearance or behavior that you wouldn’t make to a male co-worker.”

Men’s speech in the workplace is often purposefully socially and politically incorrect. Men regularly joke about things that are truly meaningful and seriously mock their own (sex’s) weaknesses in a manner that borders on cruelty. Clothes, hygiene, looks, athletic or sexual prowess—you name it—men will relentlessly dog one another in good humor. The brutality of the insults reflects the depth of the relationship. No way that works in mixed company.


55 posted on 10/18/2017 5:24:59 AM PDT by antidisestablishment ( We few, we happy few, we basket of deplorables)
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To: C19fan

“57 Things I Need You to Stop Doing to the Women You Work With”


So, no more covering them in 57 varieties of ketchup, right?


56 posted on 10/18/2017 5:25:19 AM PDT by Jagman (You name here.)
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To: grey_whiskers

I smiled at the vision of “Agile/Scrum Project Management.” It sounds like what happens when you try to get 25 Cub Scouts to accomplish something.


57 posted on 10/18/2017 5:25:51 AM PDT by Tax-chick (I know what I'm about.)
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To: Jagman

Is this in all 57 States?


58 posted on 10/18/2017 5:26:23 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: C19fan

The Weinstein scandal (crisis!) is now being used to bludgeon all hetero males as we knew it would.


59 posted on 10/18/2017 5:26:35 AM PDT by subterfuge (RIP T.P.)
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To: C19fan

Biblical love negates the need for a 57 item list.


60 posted on 10/18/2017 5:26:51 AM PDT by lurk
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