Posted on 08/17/2017 9:44:34 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Q: I’m a 50-year-old guy who’s been divorced for about a year. I’m beginning to date again, but I’m uncertain who pays for what. A friend tells me that he always pays for the first date when he goes out to dinner with someone new. But after that, he splits the check 50/50, unless there’s a special reason not to, like it’s her birthday. This sounds reasonable to me. But what should I do if, on the second date, the woman doesn’t reach for her wallet as I reach for mine? My friend says he just tells his date, “It looks like your share’s about $X” and hands her the bill. I’m not sure I’m that brave.
A: We once heard a female comic say: “Of course, I’m a feminist. Not a buy-my-own-drinks feminist, but still a feminist.” Our point is, you’re right to be concerned that some of the women you date may be slow to reach for their wallets. But fear not. You’ll find your own voice for proposing to split the dinner tab as the dates — and the bills — start to pile up. Just to be clear that there is nothing wrong with asking a woman to pay for her share of dinner. The problem with your friend’s “50/50 after the first date” rule is that one size does not fit all. Au contraire.
Even by the second meal out, you’ll probably have a more nuanced financial relationship with a new or prospective romantic partner than you do with, say, a friend at work. So instead of worrying too much about when and how to ask your date to get out her credit card, spend more time considering how you’ll want to handle the situation if you begin seeing someone regularly who has significantly
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When I was young I relied upon my good looks and incredible stamina. Now it's all about skill.
And this guy and his friend wonder why they are single.
That was back in the day when men were men & women were women. I’m so glad I lived in those days!
Haha... good one but ya know; those Big Mac's ain't as cheap as they used to be. Fast food is fast but it isn't necessarily cheap. Not Outback or Benihanna's expensive but not cheap either.
I went to one of those Benihanna type places in Vegas one time last year. I only got hot tea with it and the bill for just me was $90 with tip. I like to treat myself once in a while but not quite that well.
I figure the actual food cost for the restaurant was under $7; the rest was profit or to pay the help.
The chef in “South Park” explains prostitutes to the children in that way: “You don’t pay them to stay, you pay them to leave”.
An acquaintance had a live-in girlfriend for years; he was wealthy, and wouldn’t let her pay for anything. When asked why, he said tenants had rights; he was cold, but shrewd and calculating. After many years she left; he’d always made it clear he never wanted kids, and eventually she decided she did.
At least you saved your scalp by not offering to stop at 7-11 to pick up a loaf of bread, package of lunch-meat and jar of mayonnaise...........
Mad’s number 4 rule of life:
You can’t always buy it, but it always costs you something.
HA! I do this, and sometimes it works! Ends the "your place or mine questions" as well. I don't have a "hot" pad, but a stylish, comfortable place. Women seem to like that, I've found.
HA! Wait 'til you get granddaughters! And you have no control over how many you get! I have four. But they are worth it!
OMG, if it was Sambo’s, it would be on fire right now.
Or, since you carry, you whip out the Glock and say, Pay up, b!tch.
Divorce: The screwing you get for the screwing you got!!!
SO right. You’re a real gentleman.
When Sambo's closed, the remaining units were bought by Denny's/Baker's Square.
This is stupid simple: Take cooking classes and make meals.
Restaurant food sucks anyway...
You dated Liz Warren?
I’m currently in the dating pool. I’m 43.
DRINKS
First date is a drink. I ask to meet for happy hour at someplace decent. (not applebees, not outback, not olive garden)
If we’re not a match, I’ve only committed to a drink, both in time and expense.
I pay for the drinks.
DINNER
If we hit it off, it’s easy to just ask for the next available table, or to grab a hightop in the bar area. The food will be good, because I’ve chosen a decent place.
I pay for dinner, regardless of how it goes. Most decent women will offer to split the check, but will allow me to pay when I insist.
AFTER DINNER
If dinner goes well, I ask her to play pool, throw darts, or grab dessert at a more “gritty” bar or diner.
If she agrees, we generally have a good time and take it from there.
If she refuses because it’s “beneath her”, we’re not a match, and I generally won’t ask her out again. If there’s a valid reason to refuse (over dressed, getting late, etc) I take that into account.
Dating as an investment. You have to invest the time, money, and effort necessary to find what you’re looking for.
Yeah.... I am 29 and even I know the guy is suppose to pay. Luckily I don’t have to deal with girls like that anymore as I simply don’t bother dating.... people my age are just not worth the time or investment.
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