Posted on 05/11/2017 10:02:05 PM PDT by BJ1
At the end of the day, most men just want a woman who’s nice. “Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. It means doing something nice for him with no expectation of getting something in return—you know, the way you did when you were dating. But wait a minute, you say. Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice? Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. And masculinity is hard. Gruff. Take charge. So, where are you on the nice scale? If you’re not an inherently nice person, believe me I get it. I think I’m pretty nice, but that isn’t the first word one would think of to describe me. The truth is, I’ve had to exercise my nice muscle. Now Playing Author shares marriage advice for 'alpha females' Never autoplay videos I’ve had to learn how to be be nice. A lot of women think they’re nice because they act nice. But acting nice and being nice are two different things. Being nice means you think of others before you think about yourself. (And yes, there’s such thing as being too nice and putting your needs last; but I’m not talking about that.) It means you’re attune to the needs of others and incorporate those needs into the equation. Most husbands have no desire to lord over their wives....
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LOL!
I’m still looking for a June Cleaver.
I even tell my wife that.
Beavers mom is just so hot!
She laughs...then reminds me that June Cleaver is fiction,
I’ve got a Proverbs 31 woman as my wife, for over 30 years. She makes an effort to keep me happy. In return, what she desires from me is the feeling of security that I can and will deal with whatever crisis comes along.
Women don’t want “nice” men. Women are designed to want capable men.
I got married at age 19, to a mixed up guy, who was obsessive and possessive. I was pretty immature in a lot of ways, myself. I knew in my heart I shouldn’t marry him, even as I walked down the aisle; I didn’t even love him. I was married to him for 25 years, and was absolutely miserable, almost every day of that time. I actually used to wish he would cheat on me, so I could, as a Christian, morally divorce him. He probably would have been a good husband for a different type of person than me, though he was so jealous (for absolutely NO reason), that he was mean to our boys, because he was jealous of my love for them. He didn’t treat the girls very well, either.
I finally realized that I would not lose my soul, if I divorced him, and that God knows me, and understands me., He said, “i hate divorce”. He did NOT say, I hate divorced people. My husband took it very hard, and has made the decision to be a victim, ever since, though he had always been a popular guy and would have had no trouble finding someone to marry.. He never remarried, just has had a long term physical relationship with a woman he wouldn’t think of marrying in a million years. I was divorced for six years, and though I wanted to remarry and have a good marriage some day, and casually (and platonically dated now and then), I never saw anyone who really attracted me. I had prayed, “God, I would like to be married some day. If you have someone for me, you’ll have to bring him to me, because I’m not going out looking for a man. There were one or two very decent men at my church, including one who was very well off, who were interested in me, but I was not attracted to them. Then one day, when I was about to turn 50, a man walked into my workplace, and I said, “There he is, he’s the one!” When he finally got up the nerve to ask me out, I learned that he had, just six weeks before, rededicated his life to the Lord. (I had a list of things I wanted in a husband, and being a Christian, was at the top of the list).
Long story short, it was pretty much love at first sight, for us , and I knew that I knew, that this man was the one whom God had chosen to be my husband. We’ve been married almost 15 years, and have never once regretted it. Is either one of us perfect? Not even close! But we are perfect for each other, and I thank God every day, for bringing us together. I don’t tell Christians my story, much, because I don’t want to influence anyone to get look at me, and say, I guess divorce and remarriage is something to be taken lightly. I am sorry my ex-husband is unhappy, but he has made a definite choice to be that way. What God has joined together, let not man put asunder. But there are many people joined together in marriage, of whom it was not God, but rebellion, who put them together. I have not a single doubt in my mind, that God put us together.
I have said all that, to tell you not to give up. God has a person picked out, who , though she may not be perfect, she is perfect for you,
I appears to me that you've rationalized yourself out of the most important thing a woman can bring a man - children. My wife and I are not really happy together but I wouldn't trade my sons for your life.
Ping Megan dear!
Well, the author is wrong, of course. Many modern men want a different kind of trophy wife: highly educated with a very good job. Domestic skills unnecessary. Then when they marry, they produce highly intelligent kiddies; a sort of Charles Murray kind of family. This is why Washington is so screwed up - it’s dominated by career, success and power rather than common humanity and morality.
Good luck! Hope you find a good woman!
Well...not in my experience. I find rather that they don't want a wife at all. I'd say, "Instead of marriage, they want a woman who's insanely hot, but they'll settle for nice." Nice = free sex first of all.
When you stick to your guns (no ring, no sex) they move on.
Most of what women do to attract men is really for other women.
My son was telling me once ( when he was a teen) that most guys aren’t attracted to women’s perfume, but if a girl wore Axe, for example, guys would think she’s really hot. He said guys LIKE the smell of Axe and would think a girl who smelled like that was pretty cool.
Goes against everything we are told these days.
FWIW, I can’t stand most women’s perfume either.
They probably thought it would be a pattern with you ;)... No sex unless you keep giving her whatever she wants.
There are 3 types of men, so I think the article is missing one.
1. Wussy beta males who are trying to fit the bill of what the media and feminists want men to act like. No leadership or strength whatsoever.
2. Alpha males or just decent strong masculine hardworking men - Masculine, kind, strong, virtuous, don’t put up with bullshit, protectors of the weak, will punch out the lights of anyone threatening their family. Generally have some leadership skills and like to help lesser men who are good men become better men.
3. Bad boys - Super masculine, unstable, reckless, irresponsible, usually law breaking/dishonest, usually extremely flawed, violent or abusive.
The problem is that most women cannot tell the difference between #2 and #3 because the good #2’s are much more rare these days. Their natural instinct drives them toward a protector and the bad boys are very flashy and noticeable.
SAM: This is what is called hypergamy. Every woman does this.
Absolute BS.
NOT every woman does that.
Most women do NOT want *bad boys*. A percentage of them do and for some weird reason, it seems like it's the good looking ones who do that the most.
Woman want stability and safety and that's not happening with a *bad boy* kind of guy.
Did you do that for her when she was doing the ironing, or dishes, or cleaning the bathroom and scrubbing the tub out, and all the other thankless running the home tasks that NOBODY ever sees getting done but everyone complains about when it's not done?
Maybe she fantasized about you cooking her dinner once in a while. Or hearing you say, *Here let me carry that*.
She could have been equally disappointed in you because you didn't live up to her private fantasies of what she'd like you to do.
Don’t be sad, I think more men are waking up and Trump will help to red pill more people over time.
Here’s a good site I recommend for and man or young boy to help find the right path
http://www.artofmanliness.com/
Not one I agree with.
I've watched Trump with around Melania and while he is hands down an alpha male, he is so kind and attentive to her.
You can see that he's always got his eye on her making sure she feels safe and comfortable.
It's those little gestures. Walking with her, hand on her back, focusing on other people, and then turning to her and giving her a little attention.
He acts very protective towards her and seems genuinely concerned with her well being.
Any woman would MELT in a man's arms for that kind of treatment.
AMEN!!!!!!!
They want MEN, not overgrown little boys who want to be mommied, with privileges.
I don't know if this is true of all women. But it is certainly true of a segment of women that create problems in our society. Many women on welfare have had marriage proposals from nice men who work, have money and would support those women. But those women on welfare want Bad Boys and reject the nice men. There is nothing that any government program can do about this. That is a major reason why government poverty programs don't work.
Sex before marriage is wrong.
And risky.
To many women have been burned by giving in and then shortly after having the guy dump them.
They know they were just another conquest for him.
Men want pure women and then when someone comes along with a *no ring, no sex* policy, she's criticized for using sex as a weapon.
Goes to show that you can't please men.
Also, number 3’s put on a show and come across as 2’s and women don’t see it until it is too late.
Women absolutely want #2.
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