[metmom]

I fantasized through 11 years of marriage that just once my wife would come out to the backyard while I was doing yardwork in the hot sun, and tell me what a good job I was doing, and how much she appreciated me, and bring me a cold glass of lemonade. It never happened, but my fantasy persisted for 11 years. I literally thought about it every single time I cut the grass. She is now my ex-wife.

Did you do that for her when she was doing the ironing, or dishes, or cleaning the bathroom and scrubbing the tub out, and all the other thankless running the home tasks that NOBODY ever sees getting done but everyone complains about when it's not done?

Maybe she fantasized about you cooking her dinner once in a while. Or hearing you say, *Here let me carry that*.

She could have been equally disappointed in you because you didn't live up to her private fantasies of what she'd like you to do.

[MarineBrat]

The answer is most definitely yes. :-) Many many many times. I wasn’t the boss, and I wasn’t the score keeper, and I wasn’t the “winner” of the “who can extract the most emotional value from this marriage” contest. Are you my ex? :-)

[MarineBrat]

Oh and by the way, I gladly signed over the entirety of our joint assets to her. When you walk Scott free out of hell you don’t mind paying the toll.

[BJ1]

>>>Did you do that for her when she was doing the ironing, or dishes, or cleaning the bathroom and scrubbing the tub out, and all the other thankless running the home tasks that NOBODY ever sees getting done but everyone complains about when it’s not done? <<<

There you go ruining the men are good, women are bad momentum this thread had built up. LOL.

[Rebelbase]

Your post irked me because of its assumed fantasy that all women in marriage behave as you inferred which is far from the truth.