Posted on 05/11/2017 10:02:05 PM PDT by BJ1
At the end of the day, most men just want a woman who’s nice. “Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. It means doing something nice for him with no expectation of getting something in return—you know, the way you did when you were dating. But wait a minute, you say. Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice? Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. And masculinity is hard. Gruff. Take charge. So, where are you on the nice scale? If you’re not an inherently nice person, believe me I get it. I think I’m pretty nice, but that isn’t the first word one would think of to describe me. The truth is, I’ve had to exercise my nice muscle. Now Playing Author shares marriage advice for 'alpha females' Never autoplay videos I’ve had to learn how to be be nice. A lot of women think they’re nice because they act nice. But acting nice and being nice are two different things. Being nice means you think of others before you think about yourself. (And yes, there’s such thing as being too nice and putting your needs last; but I’m not talking about that.) It means you’re attune to the needs of others and incorporate those needs into the equation. Most husbands have no desire to lord over their wives....
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Yes, the spoiled, rich ones treat their husbands/boyfriends poorly.
what miss marmelstein fails to see is the reason why guys who are divorced go abroad for a wife. If they simply thought they got unlucky they would remarry a native. Speaking from experience, there is a whole world of women who are similar to June Cleaver. And they are truly feminine and kind. There is nothing stopping women from going abroad looking for a husband. Speaking of which, isn’t that better than being a cat lady?
Thank you, I really appreciate that!
LOL on the dishwashing and sanitation techniques! One of the things I had beaten into me was how to clean up after cooking. We’d sometimes get room temperature chicken that had been cooled and then we’d prep it thinking we were going to cook it. We were told to trash it and then the instructor would test our prep counter for bacteria! Of course it was epic the amount of bacteria all over the place! It was brutal but now I always use a plastic board for prepping chicken and it goes in the washer immediately after.
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I’d think I’d prefer to be a cat lady than hooked up with most of the guys writing in this thread. A man who can’t find a good woman out of a population of 300 million has a problem.
“Stayed home, had kids, raised them, homeschooled them, baked my own bread, did my own canning, love to sew and garden.”
OMG, it’s like looking in a mirror! (-:
Age is a man’s friend. They get richer and more mature as they get older. Women tend to like that. Guys like youth, fertility and as this article points out, a nice kind woman to share life with. If a guy doesn’t snap one of them women up when he’s young, he can always try later in life after he’s successful.
I stay in reasonable fitness, and keep clean and groomed. It's not difficult.
I get hit on.
Sorry, ladies ... (taken)
Gentlemen take note.
What American women don’t realize that most men in the USA are gentile and would never get physical with their spouse or any woman for that matter. American men have a sterling reputation with women the world over because of our uniqueness in that regard.. In the rest of the world the men are fairly brutal to women folk.
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So far, they don’t trust us with chicken! I’m still first semester.
The sanitation techniques matched with the budget constraints (2 taps of the liquid soap and that’s it) make for some interesting ways of cleaning up...
I also stuff my pockets with mis-cut lettuce and carrots rather than showing them to the teachers and getting a flunking grade.
Good for you!
Back again, Trish!
>>>What American women don’t realize that most men in the USA are gentile and would never get physical with their spouse or any woman for that matter. American men have a sterling reputation with women the world over because of our uniqueness in that regard.. In the rest of the world the men are fairly brutal to women folk.<<<
That’s true. Where I found my wife the women were exceptionally kind to me. They think American men are more caring and make better husbands. Only western women thing western men mistreat them. Western women are truly inferior in terms of what they bring to the table compared to a couple generations ago. They are inferior in the main qualities a man wants vs. some specific countries that are popular for men to find a foreign wife.
Ten Best European Countries
1) Russia (77.2% of immediate relative visas are to females)
2) Estonia (77.1% female)
3) Latvia (76.4% female)
4) Belarus (75.0% female)
5) Slovakia (72.8% female)
6) Ukraine (71.6% female)
7) Finland (71.5% female)
8) Lithuania (71.4% female)
9) Moldova (70.2% female)
10) Poland (69.1% female)
Honorable mentions (for those who like Asian women)
1) Japan (89.1% female)
2) Thailand and Laos (both 80.8% female)
3) Mongolia (79.1% female)
4) Kyrgyzstan and Kazakhstan (78.9% and 78.7% female)
5) Indonesia (77.9% female)
6) Taiwan (76.5% female)
7) Vietnam (75.6% female)
Courtesy of Return of Kings
Yes, age is the great equalizer although the male ego (at least on this thread) never matures - just sinks into senility.
Most of those countries are very poor but they love you only for your beautiful mind, right?
It’s best to just page past the angry/disappointed/bitter posts on these threads. They’re sad, but most of us are realistic and happy with our lives. My husband and I began as friends. Then he went on vacation and I realized that I missed him. We’ve been married since 1983. He’s a truly good man and nice! He also has a great attitude toward life, which is crucial in a marriage.
you focus on what u want to focus and ignore the fact they think western men are better than the local men. More kind and caring.
American women take American men for granted because they simply don’t know any better.
I’m not surprised you have a good marriage, Trish. Yes, I probably should go past these posts but they are sort of amusing.
Screw that. I’m a nice person, and want to be nice to my SO. This means living, basically, alone.
I can’t just treat someone like a sperm recepticle and demand she fold down the sheets for me before I step into my bedroom.
I want a sane, funny, reasonable human being lying next to me. Not someone I have to manipulate.
As such, f*ck’em. I’m good living alone.
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