Just a theory I'm throwing out there.
I clicked on the story to see if the lady had any regrets and about her life choices. Didn't see it. The end of the article sheds light that she had dated many men in her past who had rejected her. She pretty much came to conclusion that she's unlovable by a man and was going to go the single mom route so she would at least have a child.
I would have liked to see her give some advice to younger women out there to avoid ending up in her situation. It wasn't there. Do you guys think her choice was okay?
Her choice was strictly for her. Selfish. If you haven’t met someone you want to marry and raise children with, then it’s not to be. Find something else to be passionate about which helps society and don’t bring another child into the world to be raised without two married parents.
A pet child can be enjoyable at times.
Its funny how leftists and feminists always want to circumvent or ignore biology and nature. The same human arrogance you see in “Frankenstein”.
People think they are God and play God and then are surprised at the results.
Nature didn’t intend for women to have babies at age 38.
So sad. I didn’t know that you knew my sister! NO sarc tag)
I have a friend who has trouble with dating so she went the “married guy” route.
No it’s not okay, but her situation does deserve sympathy. I blame the men more — too many are taking sex without responsibility and take the easier option rather than marrying and supporting a family. The women need to wait until marriage as they lose out if they don’t (so they are at fault too), but I blame the men more.
Please get married people, and don’t wait until you are established. Marry when young, and as a committed team you’ll do much better spiritually, financially, emotionally, and the sex will be much better as well. Trust me I know.
As a kid who grew up without a father, in the 50’s and 60’s, I will tell you 1st hand that this kid will hate her for being so selfish when she/he grows up................................
Find the right person at 38? It’s happened but GOOD LUCK (you’ll need it). If at 18 to 25 with a truly massive pool and regular exposure to it you put off finding your “gem” till 30 something. ..well...sheese!
See box wine and cats in her future
Tinder and Bumble were the exact WRONG approach. Several of my friends founds wives in their 30s and 40s through catholicsingles.com (all three in stable marriages with children 10 to 16 years later).
The authoress gives no indication of what she was interested in putting into a marriage. Our great-grandparents had it closer to right. Traditional roles with the husband being the head of the household (and more than a ceremonial head) works best. Financial sacrifices have to be made by all, especially when children come into play, and children are expected to come in due time for most couples if you don’t try to impede it. Stories like hers and worse are the fruits of ubiquitous contraception and the sexual revolution.
Dating is very tough - especially if you’re a woman with religious values and custom. A lot of guys think that buying you a drink entitles them to free, unattached sex. Brutal. Glad I finally found the right guy. But what I went through!
She gave up family for career and then when her clock had just about run down, desperately grasped for family.
A woman really needs to be married by about 22. Family first, plenty of time for career later. Career can wait, but in most cases family cannot.
Get a kitten, honey...
WTF? Is she a eugenicist???? Why didn't she adopt? I actually have some sympathy for her. She didn't find love at an early age and pursued a career. A lot of women do that. But then wanted a baby and was confronted with a dating world that was alien to her and scary. So I get that she wants a child and probably has a lot to offer to a child, but the solution seems to be to adopt.
We only know her side of the story. Why was she allegedly rejected by the men she dated? Is she one of these high maintenance females?? Is she one of these nervous high strung g professional career women who are hard to deal with in their personal lives because they behave in their personal lives they way they do in their high powered professional career?
Is she so picky about men that she’s not being g honest with us; that she is the one who rejected them??
How does she really believe so much in traditional family values and all that, and still decide to intentionally have children out of wedlock?? This sounds like a staggering contradiction.
I have heard stories of Korea in the 40’s and 50’s where the people were forced to pickup dog poop, soak it in water and separate out the undigested bits. Then they would make soup with the undigested bits.
You ask the question...”Do you guys think her choice was okay?”
I would ask you, do you think these Koreans choice was o.k.?
Sometimes the best choice isn’t a good choice.
This woman existed in a time where sex was cheap, relationships were disposable and women gave away their power.
Having been married 18 years and divorced, I see exactly what she is talking about with social media dating, it is brutal, and not the way to meet someone. Church, social activities, and grocery stores. One big problem is few in church, old folks are about it
I will not judge her other than I feel little sad, kids are a wonderful experience and when you have a family it is a good life, lots of problems. It is hard work.
A country where over 40% of it’s children are born out of wedlock and where it is not identified as the major problem by the elites and society deserves to fail.
Just a theory I'm throwing out there.
This woman literally has dozens of options for seeking her so-called life’s fulfillment with a child.
She could volunteer, mentor, at school, church, Big Sisters, sponsorship, etc.
The opportunities are there to impact a child’s life TODAY instead of going the “dump them in daycare 10 hours a day 5 days a week route”.
The satisfaction of guiding, teaching or helping a child with advice, a skill or just plain companionship is priceless.
She needs to open her eyes and stop feeling sorry for herself.
There are kids out there who are alone, rudderless and in need of guidance and caring.