Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
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I clicked on the story to see if the lady had any regrets and about her life choices. Didn't see it. The end of the article sheds light that she had dated many men in her past who had rejected her. She pretty much came to conclusion that she's unlovable by a man and was going to go the single mom route so she would at least have a child.
I would have liked to see her give some advice to younger women out there to avoid ending up in her situation. It wasn't there. Do you guys think her choice was okay?
Her choice was strictly for her. Selfish. If you haven’t met someone you want to marry and raise children with, then it’s not to be. Find something else to be passionate about which helps society and don’t bring another child into the world to be raised without two married parents.
A pet child can be enjoyable at times.
Its funny how leftists and feminists always want to circumvent or ignore biology and nature. The same human arrogance you see in “Frankenstein”.
People think they are God and play God and then are surprised at the results.
Nature didn’t intend for women to have babies at age 38.
So sad. I didn’t know that you knew my sister! NO sarc tag)
I have a friend who has trouble with dating so she went the “married guy” route.
No it’s not okay, but her situation does deserve sympathy. I blame the men more — too many are taking sex without responsibility and take the easier option rather than marrying and supporting a family. The women need to wait until marriage as they lose out if they don’t (so they are at fault too), but I blame the men more.
Please get married people, and don’t wait until you are established. Marry when young, and as a committed team you’ll do much better spiritually, financially, emotionally, and the sex will be much better as well. Trust me I know.
Nature intended women to have children up until menopause or they wouldn’t be able to.
Not always. My father and his first wife got married when they were young and it was an utter fiasco.
As a kid who grew up without a father, in the 50’s and 60’s, I will tell you 1st hand that this kid will hate her for being so selfish when she/he grows up................................
Find the right person at 38? It’s happened but GOOD LUCK (you’ll need it). If at 18 to 25 with a truly massive pool and regular exposure to it you put off finding your “gem” till 30 something. ..well...sheese!
See box wine and cats in her future
Tinder and Bumble were the exact WRONG approach. Several of my friends founds wives in their 30s and 40s through catholicsingles.com (all three in stable marriages with children 10 to 16 years later).
The authoress gives no indication of what she was interested in putting into a marriage. Our great-grandparents had it closer to right. Traditional roles with the husband being the head of the household (and more than a ceremonial head) works best. Financial sacrifices have to be made by all, especially when children come into play, and children are expected to come in due time for most couples if you don’t try to impede it. Stories like hers and worse are the fruits of ubiquitous contraception and the sexual revolution.
Dating is very tough - especially if you’re a woman with religious values and custom. A lot of guys think that buying you a drink entitles them to free, unattached sex. Brutal. Glad I finally found the right guy. But what I went through!
She gave up family for career and then when her clock had just about run down, desperately grasped for family.
A woman really needs to be married by about 22. Family first, plenty of time for career later. Career can wait, but in most cases family cannot.
Get a kitten, honey...
Please get married people, and don’t wait until you are established. Marry when young, and as a committed team you’ll do much better spiritually, financially, emotionally, and the sex will be much better as well. Trust me I know.
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The Surprising Benefits of Marrying Young
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/07/06/the-surprising-benefits-of-marrying-young/
I would say it is still better to marry young like the “greatest generation” did. Having kids late in life brings a lot of trouble when you’re just slowing down. It’s not for everyone, of course.
Here’s a choice: save virginity for your husband on your wedding night.Accept Christ as your Saviour and ask Him to show you His will for your life.
WTF? Is she a eugenicist???? Why didn't she adopt? I actually have some sympathy for her. She didn't find love at an early age and pursued a career. A lot of women do that. But then wanted a baby and was confronted with a dating world that was alien to her and scary. So I get that she wants a child and probably has a lot to offer to a child, but the solution seems to be to adopt.
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