Posted on 03/23/2017 11:48:04 AM PDT by MNDude
I was recently listening to radio host, Glenn Beck, and he proudly announced that he cries really often as if it is a badge of honor.
I have noticed there are many men who like being seen crying in public: Bill Clinton, Schumer, Boehner, Anderson Cooper, my former pastor.
I have not known many men to cry in public, well my former roommate in college, but we always made fun of him when he cried.
I was raised that crying for something other than a death in the family for a man is not the thing to do.
Perhaps I am wrong? Maybe wet cheeks is the face of manliness?
Freeper women, what are your thoughts on crying men?
My husband got a little misty at our wedding and when our children were born. That’s it.
I married a man. Not a wuss.
I think a man can cry, at a child dying; wife dying; parents dying;
But to cry in public, I don’t even do that, yes I cry, but in the walls of my home away from other people...
You can’t think that someone like Glen Beck is a man, he’s an idiot and a horrible one at that...he’s the slime that snakes crawl along on...
Other than that the only thing that makes my eyes wet is an allergy.
Sometimes I *try* to cry at a movie but I usually fail. I might have squeezed one out at Lion recently.
[[I was recently listening to radio host, Glenn Beck, and he proudly announced that he cries really often as if it is a badge of honor. ]]
he cries because he has either a mental condition, or whacky hormones condition that he’s trying to pass off as manly-
There are key moments when it’s ok to briefly let your guard down- Death- Saying goodbye to your child for the first time when they go off- Maybe the birth of a child- or when the X-Files gets interrupted by a presidential press conference- but other than that- nope- not ok UNLESS you are steve martin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHB4TzHzi2A
Freepers make fun of Beck when he cries.
Music videos, too. For one, the Phil Collins video, Do You Remember, kills me when the little girl smiles at the kid. Such innocence."
I will readily admit that I, as well, get choked up and misty-eyed as a result of a good number of movie endings and music videos.
I cried when my late-wife died, but my cats were the only ones there to see.
And, much as I dislike the ASPCA as an organization, I cannot watch the commercial on television with Sarah McLachlan singing "In the Arms of An Angel". In fact, I'm getting a little bit verklempt just thinking about it. My wife has learned to be quick with the remote control to change the channel if it comes on. It doesn't take me long at all to go to pieces ...
I suspect with Beck it’s some sort of drugs - valium addiction withdrawal, for instance.
That commercial’s a killer!
Why oh why did you have to write this? Now I'm boo-hooing uncontrollably. And it's all YOUR FAULT.
jk
[[Men who cry a lot are just too emotional IMHO.]]
There very likely could be hormonal imbalances- not an uncommon thing-
Let’s look at your list beyond Glenn Beck as others have handled that subject already.
Bill Clinton - Really?? Really? The “cry-on-demand” putz who was exposed as laughing when leaving a funeral until noticing the press was watching???
Schumer, Boehner - politicians, not a whole lot different from Beck as having an attention-getting device.
Anderson Cooper - yeah, I’m nearly brought to tears during my yearly prostate exam so it’s easy figure this one.
My former pastor - I’ll leave that one to you to decide.
With crunhberries?
“I think a man can cry, at a child dying; wife dying; parents dying;”
Unfortunately, can plead guilty to all three...
It depends on the man and what he is crying about. I can’t even imagine loving a man who could put his dog down without shedding a tear, or losing a child. It’s like anything else, depends on circumstances.
I never questioned the manhood of the Indian Chief in the old 1970s anti-littering public service commercials.
But that was because the tear -as presented- were for the community rather than hurt from a selfish personal slight.
And he wasn’t sobbing and blubbering.
In my family Dad forbade crying by anyone in public - even the smallest girl in the family, but again, that applied to tears of selfishness. Crying to manipulate the witnesses- or to try to soften the heart of the “judge” in the case where we’d done something wrong and were facing punishment- was of course forbidden in all cases. Dad could spot the actor’s tears, or tears of fears, and would shut them down.
But shedding tears of sympathy for others was acceptable.
Generally men should remain publicly stoic in matters where the family- esp. women and children are grieving, not because the men aren’t grieving too, but to provide a sense of security for the other family members. This is a sacrifice on the part of them men, for holding it in is hard on the heart.... but it probably comes from a time when any public display of weakness or deep injury in the clan could invite other clans to take advantage.
It is unhealthy to hold it in, and the pressure to do so can lead in the direst of cases some individuals to suicide, so if the sorrow is genuine and not selfish, let it out, but take heed of where you do so and who may see, that you do not become the center of attention. Men may weep without losing their manhood but they are expected to have enough control to hold it in for a better time, to not allow their grief to take precedence over their manly responsibilities of providing security for their family. At the right time, they can let it out at which point the wife or his best friend becomes the strength of the sorrowful man to lend him support and comfort as he grieves.
That said, there are circumstances when crying is healthy and natural -- when family or friends or comrades or loyal animals die. During war movies, the recounting of heroic deeds, events of a patriotic nature...Other than that, zip it up best you can.
*** “Depends on why they are crying” ***
I am guilty ... Sponge Bob Square Pants and Barney the Dinosaur and it is about 5 hours after I first hear the songs.
Beta males often cry.
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