I doubt highly that the hyper-intellectual types in this article represent all women. They're probably better off not having children. But it is frightening that our society is creating so many of them.
I consider myself to be quite fortunate to come from a loving, supportive and stable family, and to have realized at a very early age that marriage and having children weren’t for me. I’m lucky in the sense that I didn’t have to go out and marry a woman, get her pregnant and later realize I’m in a situation where extraction would be painful.
Don’t get me wrong, I think marriage and families can be a wonderful thing when the right people can deal with the give-and-take required of all healthy relationships. if people want to get married (the traditional form of marriage that is) and raise a family, I think it’s great.
But I must have been blessed with an unnaturally early dose of wisdom when I came to realize I was simply too self-centered to make a good husband or father. I knew I could get into a situation like that and be good for an indeterminate amount of time, but I’d eventually would want out.
My now-deceased aunt suggested I liked playing the field, but I told her it wasn’t that which made me stay a bachelor. It was the fear of being in ANY situation I couldn’t get out of. And I would not want to hurt anyone by breaking up a family.
I didn’t mean to be so long-winded about myself, but it was necessary to point out why I say that women who regret bringing babies into the world are either too narcissistic to not know they are narcissistic, or should be extended some forgiveness for their unintentional or inadvertent ignorance.
When I’m in Toronto, and I walk around the streets downtown, all I see are miserable women (and men too, let’s be fair), most of them are childless, husband-less, often drunk.
My sister was in town and barely comes here and she noticed every woman had an angry, grim look on their faces.
It’s like the zombie apocalypse only with bitter spinsters.
Glad I had children, wish I had more.
There have been bad, selfish mothers since time began. This is fake news to make us feel like the world is getting worse. And I am getting bored of it.
When she’s old & ill, she’ll feel differently. Selfish.
In a roundabout way, this is one of the main reasons for (D) politicians to be so aggressive about immigration. The socialistic structure of government retirement plans is to tax current earnings to pay for current retirees. When the birth rate falls below replacement, this puts the such retirement plans in a economic death spiral. So, new citizens must be allowed in to the economy where their earnings can be taxed.
Now of course this assumes that the immigrants will pay more in taxes than they cost in benefits, which is turning out to not be the case especially in Europe.
Socialism is the evil idea that society will be better off in every way that counts when we each are forced to live at the expense of everyone else. It is utter foolishness to structure retirement programs in any other way than where retirees are drawing on the assets they have accumulated. But this was just too big of a honey pot for greedy politicians and progressive elites. Social Security taxes were a river of money coming in to government coffers that just begged to be spent on programs that would benefit big and bigger government and social causes. Now we face a flood of Mexicans in order to pay our “benefits”.
We have become serfs in our own country. We have sold ourselves. We have despised our Blessings. We will be so sorry we did.
Selfish blankety blanks.
Poor kids.
They’ll know they’re not wanted. They’ll sense it and overhear stuff said.
It is disastrous when mothers say this. My mother did and the result, besides aborted siblings, is one permanently incarcerated (for being an abusive pedophile), one dead (froze on street) and the last one (me) who tried to kill herself at 14 and never had children so what happened to me would never be repeated and who also felt...unloveable. To feel that way is a special kind of hell.
I have found my way to the Lord, thank God, though it took me over 50 years....
Oh, for pity's sake. That is a pathethic person right there.
The article in general has the stink of "women's magazine writing" all over it, millennial style, which is to say that life should be like the pages of Real Simple magazine. She inanely claims that women not wanting children is a "movement" as if it is an affirmative historical cause, without a shred of analysis as to why there has been a downturn, among what demographic groups, and what this phenomenon might be caused by or might itself cause.
For instance, we've had a terrible economy for many years. We've had fourteen islamist attacks on our soil during the Zero years, and constant threats to import more jihadists. It's much worse in Europe, from where she consults the tabloid Daily Mail for allies in her "movement." This is not just pathethic, it is shameful as a piece of thinking, much less as an exegesis for her narcissistic worldview.
I have long believed that selfish women should avoid having children. But as I age, I realize that two-thirds of the population might not be here if that were the case. The real issue is her lack of belief in the transcendent meaning of life, and any appreciation for what might have come before or come afterward that does not strictly involve her personal gratification.
And on the flip side are women who let their biological clocks run out and now really regret NOT having children.
bfl
The number of women who had children and regret them is small compared to the 10% of women who chose not to have children or couldn’t find a mate but wish they had.
(Historically 10% of women are childless for various reasons, for the ones hitting 50, it is now 20%.)
“Women Who Wish They’d Never Had Children”
Put it up for adoption then. Helllooooo????
While my four children were smalle, I had to ask God to give me strength about 50 times a day. Can't imagine getting through this phase without having a strong faith.
That I believe is what's going on with these regretful mothers today - they probably have no background of faith.
My daughter decided not to have children and I applaud her decision. She does not have the patience or temperament for a 24/7 job like that and it would not be rewarding. My son and his wife had a child last year after trying for a long time. He works out of his home so both parents can spend a lot of time with their son. They are such good parents and are experiencing so much love as they care for this precious child! It is all in attitude. Self-absorbed people should not have kids.