Idiocracy
Posted on 12/19/2016 11:29:40 PM PST by MoochPooch
It's unthinkable, and it's definitely unspeakable, but women all over the world are coming forward to say it: I regret having my children.
Here's the thing about realising that you shouldn't have had kids," says Laura*, 37, a journalist based in Los Angeles. "You can't take the decision back."
Laura once believed that she wanted to be a mother. She had little direct experience with children—no siblings young enough to need tending to, no babysitting jobs—and when she and her husband decided to start a family, she wondered if she knew enough about what that meant. "I asked some friends if we could get the basics from them and they ran us through the general infant care stuff in maybe 45 minutes," she says. "In retrospect, it was laughably insufficient. I really didn't know what I was in for."
Laura got pregnant easily. But once her son was born, she was overwhelmed and frustrated, prone to lengthy crying jags, and consumed by boredom and dissatisfaction.
Some might call this postpartum depression, but the cloud never lifted. Laura knew there was a different force at work. "The regret hit me when the grandmas went home and my husband went back to the office and I was on my own with him," she says. "I realized that this was my life now—and it was unbearable."
(Excerpt) Read more at elleuk.com ...
When I’m in Toronto, and I walk around the streets downtown, all I see are miserable women (and men too, let’s be fair), most of them are childless, husband-less, often drunk.
My sister was in town and barely comes here and she noticed every woman had an angry, grim look on their faces.
It’s like the zombie apocalypse only with bitter spinsters.
Glad I had children, wish I had more.
There have been bad, selfish mothers since time began. This is fake news to make us feel like the world is getting worse. And I am getting bored of it.
When she’s old & ill, she’ll feel differently. Selfish.
The Bible says to be fruitful and multiply. Obviously not everyone is called to parenthood, but history would indicate that most are. Look at Western Europe and, to a growing extent, the US. Those who should have children don’t and our culture is slipping away as we’re overshadowed by those who, ironically, don’t share our culture and have plenty of kids as a result.
You are so right; I work with MANY women who regret not having children; some are downright hostile to those who did have them. I’ve received invitations to parties from one on my wife’s side who includes “no kids” (and these aren’t “adult-themed” parties); so sad. On the other hand, they are much better off financially (which was often the trade-off to begin with - they wouldn’t sacrifice for children).
I don’t think everyone is made to be a parent, but as I age I see more and more childless people (those who could but wouldn’t have children) rue their decisions.
In a roundabout way, this is one of the main reasons for (D) politicians to be so aggressive about immigration. The socialistic structure of government retirement plans is to tax current earnings to pay for current retirees. When the birth rate falls below replacement, this puts the such retirement plans in a economic death spiral. So, new citizens must be allowed in to the economy where their earnings can be taxed.
Now of course this assumes that the immigrants will pay more in taxes than they cost in benefits, which is turning out to not be the case especially in Europe.
Socialism is the evil idea that society will be better off in every way that counts when we each are forced to live at the expense of everyone else. It is utter foolishness to structure retirement programs in any other way than where retirees are drawing on the assets they have accumulated. But this was just too big of a honey pot for greedy politicians and progressive elites. Social Security taxes were a river of money coming in to government coffers that just begged to be spent on programs that would benefit big and bigger government and social causes. Now we face a flood of Mexicans in order to pay our “benefits”.
We have become serfs in our own country. We have sold ourselves. We have despised our Blessings. We will be so sorry we did.
Idiocracy
Be assured of God’s infinite love for you!
Selfish blankety blanks.
Poor kids.
They’ll know they’re not wanted. They’ll sense it and overhear stuff said.
It is disastrous when mothers say this. My mother did and the result, besides aborted siblings, is one permanently incarcerated (for being an abusive pedophile), one dead (froze on street) and the last one (me) who tried to kill herself at 14 and never had children so what happened to me would never be repeated and who also felt...unloveable. To feel that way is a special kind of hell.
I have found my way to the Lord, thank God, though it took me over 50 years....
So sad. Thank you for sharing.
“Carl’s Jr:
“Eff off, I’m eating.””
Oh, for pity's sake. That is a pathethic person right there.
The article in general has the stink of "women's magazine writing" all over it, millennial style, which is to say that life should be like the pages of Real Simple magazine. She inanely claims that women not wanting children is a "movement" as if it is an affirmative historical cause, without a shred of analysis as to why there has been a downturn, among what demographic groups, and what this phenomenon might be caused by or might itself cause.
For instance, we've had a terrible economy for many years. We've had fourteen islamist attacks on our soil during the Zero years, and constant threats to import more jihadists. It's much worse in Europe, from where she consults the tabloid Daily Mail for allies in her "movement." This is not just pathethic, it is shameful as a piece of thinking, much less as an exegesis for her narcissistic worldview.
I have long believed that selfish women should avoid having children. But as I age, I realize that two-thirds of the population might not be here if that were the case. The real issue is her lack of belief in the transcendent meaning of life, and any appreciation for what might have come before or come afterward that does not strictly involve her personal gratification.
And on the flip side are women who let their biological clocks run out and now really regret NOT having children.
bfl
"Idiocracy" was a documentary ...
Inside the Growing Movement of Women Who Wish They’d Never Had Children
Just probably commenting on their Mothers feelings.
The number of women who had children and regret them is small compared to the 10% of women who chose not to have children or couldn’t find a mate but wish they had.
(Historically 10% of women are childless for various reasons, for the ones hitting 50, it is now 20%.)
The societal impacts I see long term from the ability and social permission to choose childlessness:
* both any biological factors and memes that encourage childlessness will be weeded out of the population in two generations, and we’re already half way there
* the religious who favor families may be a minority in the West now but will grow in numbers and as a percentage of society because the future belongs to those who show up; ideally, that isn’t due to foreign imports but domestic production
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