Posted on 12/05/2016 10:12:16 AM PST by C19fan
Dear Sugars,
My husband has a life that many people who are "rule-followers," like me, would envy. When I first met him, it was undeniably a passionate love affair. I'd never dated anyone or known anyone like him before. He took risks, lived all over the world, had many passions and has been a loyal friend. He's seven years older than I am, and we met at work, where his power and seniority at the office was insanely attractive to me. The year we got married, he wanted to take a risk and go back to graduate school to find his dream job. I trusted his judgment, and between his savings, my new job, and some sacrifices, we comfortably lived while he went through two years of graduate school. My husband now has his dream job. I'm proud of everything he's accomplished and what we were able to do together to make it happen.
Over the past four years, my career has skyrocketed in ways I never could have dreamed of. I've broken through the hypothetical glass ceiling in a male-dominated industry. I am a huge believer in women in the workplace and always will be. If they become the breadwinners in marriage, more power to them.
Now herein lies my problem — I became the breadwinner in an extreme way. I committed to supporting us for two years, but we're going on four now, and it will likely be five. Our income divide is so extreme that I pay for 90 percent of our living expenses. What I've found is I can't live this girl-power lifestyle that I believe in.
(Excerpt) Read more at npr.org ...
Yes, it is work, but it is the most important and rewarding work a woman can do.
PS: I gave birth to 4 children in the space of 5 years and 4 months.
Hardly nonsense. I’ve been married (and with my wife the two years before only) since I was 24 (mid 30s now). I know guys that have slept with 50 different women in the last year and frankly you wouldn’t know they were sluts for the most cases. Online dating and apps like tinder have completely changed the game in the last decade (for the worse) while some of my best and nicest guy friends have a terrible time getting a date. Like I said, see it at work too
Sorry, I did not look at your links, but I will respond to what you said. Looks, for most women over 25, are not that important for a man. Of course, she wants a man who is well-groomed, but Hollywood looks are not required.
As a woman, I can look at a man and evaluate him in terms of physical attractiveness, which is probably what the dating site survey was asking for, but a photo does not tell the whole picture. Meeting a man in person and having a conversation with him tells a woman much more than a snapshot can do. The less than handsome man may come across as a great find.
I am not beautiful, but when I was young I was definitely above average, and I dated some men who were actually rather homely in terms of looks. But they had qualities that made a girl overlook their outward appearance. I am betting you can think of at least one guy that you have come across in your life who was far from a 10 in looks yet was able to charm the ladies with his personality.
As for the data about the number of sex partners in the varying generations — data which I also did not look at — I don’t see the point. If the number of sex partners is decreasing with the generations, I consider that a good development. In my mother’s generation, the number was usually one, i.e., one’s spouse. It would be great if we went back to numbers like that.
That's good to hear and a good plan.
Congratulations on your marriage.
My wife and I also married young and have been following the same plan since day one of our 50 years together (in April).
She’s very immature.
WOW Col, congrats to you and the wife.
Of course her career took off because of the equipment between her legs. Industries that are 90% male now typically have management that is 90% female.
So she got everything she wanted, he got everything he wanted. The difference is he isn’t whining because he earned it whereas she was probably an affirmative action trophy.
what is this sick attraction today’s women seem to have toward money and power? The “bad” boy? The player?
MGTOW!
Let’s see here, she fell for the guy because he was a powerful senior exec where she worked. They get married. She continues to work and eventually finds that affirmative action has boosted her career and earnings.
In the meantime, the powerful senior exec she married decides he’s tired of all that and wants to go back to school. She thinks she’s cool with that. But then, when the shoe’s on the other foot, she just cannot see supporting their household and lives to a great extent off of her salary.
It was OK when he was doing it, but not now that she is. She wants to do something else, just like the formerly powerful exec she married, but she’s unhappy that he did it, even though it’s what she wants for herself.
Waah, I don’t like when he does what I did, and I don’t like it when he does what I do, I want to do what he did that I don’t like, life is just so unfair.
Women.
I bet these people don’t even exist. Makes for a great story, though.
Reminds me of “Married With Children” when Steve Rhoades quit his job at the bank to pursue his dream job of being a Forest Ranger.
Narcissism?
That seems odd to me.
Well said.
My husband and I met at work. We’ve been married for 33 years.
You know, when I got married I never thought I would end up being the breadwinner.
When my husband was the primary breadwinner, he earned a heck of a good income, incredible! I worked all along, too. Life rolled on like this in a lucrative and comfortable way for many years.
Then a couple of years ago my husband nearly died from a blocked carotid artery and a stroke that occurred during surgery. He retired for medical reasons, and he wasn’t happy about it. But there is no job nor income worth the sacrifice of one’s health/life. He retired, and is still adjusting to being retired.
So here I am, the breadwinner, never thought this would happen to me. I am proud that I earn a very good income doing a “man’s work” in a “man’s world.” When I married my husband, it was for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer-—period. Life brings what it brings, and most of the time life is full of surprises. I’m just glad I have my husband. I could have easily lost him, he was that close to death.
I don’t think it’s a psychiatric disorder, per se. I just think she was taught so many stupid ideas that she sounds and acts like she has a psychiatric disorder.
As a practical matter I don’t know what the difference is, but it seems like it might be important.
Howdy, neighbor.
waves back
Hmm...”Princess syndrome”?
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